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I have my best student sitting in front of me. Good.
我最好的学生就坐在我面前。很好。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: We have some kind of karma with these drafts. What's that?
YB：我们跟这些账单有点业力。是多少？
Student: Twenty dollars.
学生：二十美元。
YB: Twenty dollars is twenty dollars.
YB：二十美元就是二十美元。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
Students: (Laugh)
学生们：（笑）
YB: Comprehensive woman born to live happily but suffers the pain, suffers the pain as a mother, as a wife, as a person, as a individual, as a professional. In spite of the all modernization, civilization and understanding, still is a second class citizen. Can you explain me why? What is in you as a woman which creates you into these troublesome environments? You have sixteen times more sensitivity, intuition, intelligence, strategy, sensitivity, planning, you know better, there is no doubt about it, but you cannot reconcile with the man. So for all these centuries, because of something which I would like to ask you to tell me, you have become a second class citizen.
YB：一个完整的女人，生来就该幸福地活着，却在受苦，作为母亲受苦，作为妻子受苦，作为一个人受苦，作为一个个体受苦，作为一个职业人受苦。尽管有这一切现代化、文明和理解，她仍然是二等公民。你能跟我解释为什么吗？你作为一个女人，内在有什么东西把你带进这些麻烦的环境？你的敏感、直觉、智力、策略、敏感、规划比男人多十六倍，你懂得更多，这一点毫无疑问，但你无法跟男人调和。所以这几个世纪以来，因为某种东西——我想请你们告诉我那是什么——你成了二等公民。
What is that one word which has made you that way? What is that one word which has taken away from you happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment and grace? Please.
是哪一个词让你变成这样？是哪一个词夺走了你的幸福、满足、圆满和优雅？请说。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
Students: (Laugh)
学生们：（笑）
YB: What?
YB：什么？
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
which has taken away from you happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment and grace? Please.
夺走了你的幸福、满足、圆满和优雅？请说。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
Students: (Laugh)
学生们：（笑）
YB: What?
YB：什么？
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: Well, you can blame on a man that's easiest way. You know funny part is, that tragedy is it's a international camp, you come from everywhere and that one word you don't know.
YB：好吧，你可以怪男人，那是最容易的路。你知道有趣的是，可悲的是，这是一个国际营地，你们来自四面八方，而那一个词你们却不知道。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: No.
YB：不对。
Student: (------)
学生：（------）
YB: No.
YB：不对。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: There is a one word, you have a one enemy and one enemy alone.
YB：有一个词，你有一个敌人，只有一个敌人。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
Students: (Laugh)
学生们：（笑）
YB: Not at all. All what you are talking is men have it.
YB：完全不是。你说的那些，男人都有。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
Students: (Laugh)
学生们：（笑）
YB: What?
YB：什么？
Student: Menstruation.
学生：月经。
YB: Now you have started accepting the defeat when you come to menstruation and baby bearing and all that, then it means you have lost everything. The word is sensuality. (?)
YB：现在你开始接受失败了，一说到月经、生孩子这些，你就认输了，那意味着你已经失去了一切。那个词是肉欲。（？）
Students: (Laugh)
学生们：（笑）
YB: Look at your (?). Whenever you come out with sensuality, you lose your sensory balance and you lose your sensory communication and imbalance in your senses totally create your destruction.
YB：看看你的（？）。每当你流露出肉欲，你就失去感官的平衡，你就失去感官的沟通，感官的失衡会彻底把你毁掉。
Now, ask me questions. Oh no, you are broiling man look at you. What he said? Yeah.
现在，问我问题。哦不，你都快烤熟了，看看你。他说了什么？对。
Student1: Do you mean sensuality is a manipulative tool?
学生1：你的意思是肉欲是一种操控的工具吗？
ask me questions. Oh no, you are broiling man look at you. What he said? Yeah.
问我问题。哦不，你都快烤熟了，看看你。他说了什么？对。
Student1: Do you mean sensuality is a manipulative tool?
学生1：你的意思是肉欲是一种操控的工具吗？
YB: With sensuality you manipulate, you cheapen yourself, you are characterless, you are good for nothing, you are hopeless, you totally prostitute yourself, you betray yourself, you downhill yourself. Any dirty words just make a list and go with it. It's a very blinding and very inferiority complex syndrome of the woman; not senses, sensuality. Play of senses for creating an impact. It's the worst the woman has. Worst. This is what makes you not you. This is what makes you not being, being, being, being, a woman. This is where you compromise every intelligence, your everything. This is where you fall apart. You know that?
YB：用感官享乐去操控，你会把自己弄得很廉价，你变得没有品格，你一无是处，你毫无希望，你彻底出卖自己，你背叛自己，你把自己往下拖。任何脏话，列个单子，照着来就行。这是女人身上一种非常盲目、非常自卑的情结；不是感官，是感官享乐。玩弄感官去制造影响。这是女人身上最糟的东西。最糟的。正是它让你不再是你。正是它让你无法成为、成为、成为、成为一个女人。正是在这里，你牺牲掉一切智力，你的一切。正是在这里，你崩溃瓦解。你知道吗？
It is very funny, I asked a girl that day, I said, "How old you are? " She was less than eighteen.
很有意思，那天我问一个女孩，我说：「你多大了？」她不到十八岁。
And I said, "How is life? "
我说：「生活怎么样？」
"Very fine. "
「挺好的。」
I said, "How is your boyfriend? "
我说：「你男朋友怎么样？」
She said, "Marvelous. "
她说：「棒极了。」
She has nineteen year old boyfriend and you know I am just very funny I said, "Well, how is your sexual intercourse? "
她有个十九岁的男朋友，你知道我这人就是很逗，我说：「那你们的性交怎么样？」
She said, "Once a while you know we find time everyday and we can have it once or twice. "
她说：「偶尔吧，你知道我们每天都找时间，能做上一两次。」
funny I said, "Well, how is your sexual intercourse? "
很逗，我说：「那你们的性交怎么样？」
She said, "Once a while you know we find time everyday and we can have it once or twice. "
她说：「偶尔吧，你知道我们每天都找时间，能做上一两次。」
I said, "Where? "
我说：「在哪儿？」
"In his car, it's comfortable. "
「在他车里，挺舒服的。」
And I just turned around and I said, "Do you know what you are doing? "
我就转过身说：「你知道你在干什么吗？」
She said, "I don't know what I am doing but it feels good, it is relaxing. "
她说：「我不知道我在干什么，但感觉很好，很放松。」
To me it's just a sensory shut up. Rather than her own senses, her own intelligence, being herself, she just wants to fall apart and that is your very eternal desire.
对我来说，这只是一种感官上的闭嘴。她不要自己的感官、自己的智力、做她自己，她只想崩溃瓦解，而那是你永恒的渴望。
You know your comfort zone is your fantasy and reality always pulls a person out of the comfort zone and you hate anybody who speak truth to you. And when you use your sensory system... What is a boyfriend to you? Sensory security against career, against character, against inbuilt strength. You have from the time immemorial to this day, you have never tried to first practice being you and then everything else because of the sensory deficiency.
你知道你的舒适区就是你的幻想，而现实总会把人从舒适区里拽出来，你恨任何对你说真话的人。而当你使用你的感官系统时……男朋友对你来说是什么？是感官上的安全感，用来对抗事业、对抗品格、对抗内在的力量。从远古直到今天，你从来没有试着先去练习做你自己，然后再做别的，因为感官上的匮乏。
from the time immemorial to this day, you have never tried to first practice being you and then everything else because of the sensory deficiency.
从远古直到今天，你从来没有试着先去练习做你自己，然后再做别的，因为感官上的匮乏。
You name it love, you call it, I don't mind what you call it but all I know is that it calls back on you as cheap and every woman with all the intelligence and the possibility of success and comfort and absolutely in a position and ecstasy, loses that chance. Once a woman can control her sensory condition, she will be prosperous, she will be educated, she will be wise, she will be in total discipline and control, she will be loved, respected, valued, considered honorable but when she starts flirting, flirts are never alert.
你管它叫爱，随你怎么叫，我不在乎你怎么称呼它，但我知道的是，它会反过来报应到你身上，廉价得很，而每一个拥有全部智力、有可能成功、舒适、完全处于有利地位和狂喜之中的女人，都会失去那个机会。一旦一个女人能控制自己的感官状态，她就会丰盛，她就会受教，她就会明智，她就会处于完全的纪律和控制之中，她就会被爱、被尊重、被珍视、被认为高贵，但当她开始调情，调情的人从来都不警觉。
be in total discipline and control, she will be loved, respected, valued, considered honorable but when she starts flirting, flirts are never alert.
处于完全的纪律和控制之中，她就会被爱、被尊重、被珍视、被认为高贵，但当她开始调情，调情的人从来都不警觉。
All the millions of dollars being spent on hairdos and lipstick, rose, mascara and this and that, think of that whole workshop. That makeup is for your absolutely sensory play when you do not have a commonsense that you are you. What you need makeup for? To attract things, right? And God knows what you are going to attract. What is it, it's a journey of life, from one misery to another misery, from one episode to another episode, from one situation to another situation, one state of mind to another state of mind? The problem with you is that you can't confront yourself, forget about confronting others. That's your greatest weakness.
花在发型、口红、玫瑰、睫毛膏和这个那个上的数百万美元，想想那整个工程。那些妆容是为了你彻底的感官游戏，当你没有常识、不知道你就是你的时候。你要妆容干什么？为了吸引东西，对吧？天知道你会吸引来什么。那是什么，那是人生的旅程，从一个苦难到另一个苦难，从一个插曲到另一个插曲，从一个处境到另一个处境，从一种心境到另一种心境？你的问题在于你无法面对自己，更别提面对别人了。那是你最大的弱点。
You have absolutely no strength and character to confront yourself. If you do not know how to confront yourself, you will never know how to elevate yourself and under the sensory spell, you will face the disaster. Ever you thought this way? Did you?
你完全没有力量，也没有品格去面对自己。如果你不知道如何面对自己，你就永远不会知道如何提升自己，而在感官的魔咒之下，你会遭遇灾难。你曾经这样想过吗？想过吗？
It's so funny, allover the world woman is suffering. Everybody knows the real problem, nobody wants to solve it. Do you understand?
太可笑了，全世界女人都在受苦。每个人都知道真正的问题所在，却没有人想去解决它。你明白吗？
Students: Yes sir.
学生：是的，先生。
so funny, allover the world woman is suffering. Everybody knows the real problem, nobody wants to solve it. Do you understand?
太可笑了，全世界女人都在受苦。每个人都知道真正的问题所在，却没有人想去解决它。你明白吗？
Students: Yes sir.
学生：是的，先生。
YB: Can you tell me in your own words, what you will do to get out of this problem? Can you tell me why you are always not ready to confront your own self? Come on now. Let's hear from you.
YB：你能用你自己的话告诉我，你会怎么做来摆脱这个问题吗？你能告诉我，为什么你总是不愿意面对你自己吗？来吧。让我们听听你的说法。
Student: Fear.
学生：恐惧。
YB: Fear of what? Fear of?
YB：恐惧什么？恐惧什么？
Student: Pain.
学生：痛苦。
YB: Fear of pain? Pain is caused by your sensory play and not confronting yourself. You have absolutely no right to fear. God has never created you for fear. That's why he gave you sixteen times more intuition and intelligence that you should never be in pain. You cause the pain. Huh?
YB：恐惧痛苦？痛苦是由你的感官游戏和不面对自己造成的。你绝对没有权利恐惧。神从来没有把你造出来是为了恐惧。所以他给了你十六倍多的直觉和智力，让你永远不该处于痛苦之中。是你造成了痛苦。嗯？
Student2: (-----)
学生2：（-----）
YB: Attachment to what?
YB：执迷于什么？
Student 2: (-----)
学生2：（-----）
YB: I don't understand, can I be explained?
YB：我不明白，能给我解释一下吗？
Student 2: Whatever you are (?) whatever you are finding and inviting super sensual (?)
学生 2：无论你是什么（？）无论你在寻找和邀请什么，超级感官的（？）
YB: Let us discuss this, let us come out with it.
YB：我们来讨论一下，把它讲清楚。
Student 2: It seems like whatever you can get emotional about, you can get attached to and bind with it in a way that...
学生 2：看起来，凡是你能投入情绪的东西，你就能对它产生执迷，并以某种方式与它绑在一起……
let us come out with it.
把它讲清楚。
Student 2: It seems like whatever you can get emotional about, you can get attached to and bind with it in a way that...
学生 2：看起来，凡是你能投入情绪的东西，你就能对它产生执迷，并以某种方式与它绑在一起……
YB: It is a most wonderful idea that you become cheaper, you become painful, you prostitute yourself, you live in a insult, you live in a dungeon, you create your own misery, all that three hundred forty thousand things, just what attachment is that? I mean to say, one by one if you all start making a list of your miseries and your horrible living and your pain and your all that, it all come to one thing that when you had to confront yourself, you didn't. There is one answer to all that your misery. I am asking, why? Do you really, professionally want to suffer? Is it that what your birth is all about?
YB：这是个再妙不过的主意——你让自己变得廉价，你让自己痛苦，你出卖自己，你活在羞辱里，你活在暗无天日的地牢里，你亲手制造自己的苦难，那三十四万种东西，说到底，那是什么执迷？我是说，如果你们一个个开始列出自己的苦难、自己糟糕的生活、自己的痛苦，还有这一切，最后都会归结到一件事：当你必须面对自己的时候，你没有面对。你所有的苦难，只有一个答案。我在问，为什么？你真的、专业地想受苦吗？你的出生就是为了这个吗？
There is one answer to all that your misery. I am asking, why? Do you really, professionally want to suffer? Is it that what your birth is all about?
你所有的苦难，只有一个答案。我在问，为什么？你真的、专业地想受苦吗？你的出生就是为了这个吗？
There is no way on the planet I can agree to that you have any handicap, it's amazing, you menstruate four, five days and you know what you go through, we men, we men have that state thirty days a month. You know. Your hormones get just little bit leaked out those four days, right? And you know how miserable you are? You are bloated, you don't feel good, you are sensitive, you are moody, God knows what. Just for four, five days. Look at us, we are thirty days in that nonsense. Look at your sexual passion, you can go from three hours to six hours, we can go from fifteen minutes to thirty one minutes, that's our limit. So we are not sexually comparable either.
在这个地球上，我绝不可能同意你有什么缺陷。太神奇了，你们月经来四五天，你知道你们经历的是什么，我们男人，我们男人一个月三十天都处在那状态里。你知道的。你们的荷尔蒙在那四五天里只是漏出来一点点，对吧？你知道自己有多难受吗？你浮肿，你不舒服，你敏感，你情绪化，天知道还有什么。才四五天而已。看看我们，我们三十天都处在那鬼状态里。看看你们的性激情，你们能从三个小时到六个小时，我们只能从十五分钟到三十一分钟，那就是我们的极限。所以我们在性上也没法比。
Look at you, your clitoris never fails, our penis never come through. Let's talk facts, we are talking facts. You retain youthfulness thirty times more than men and you live almost on average ten years more than men and three fourth of the world is held by the widows of this earth. So what do you want?
看看你们，你们的阴蒂从不失灵，我们的阴茎从来靠不住。咱们谈事实，我们谈的是事实。你们保持青春的能力是男人的三十倍，你们平均比男人多活将近十年，这世上四分之三的寡妇守着这个世界。所以你到底想要什么？
Student 3: (----)
学生 3：（----）
YB: Huh?
YB：嗯？
Student 3: (----)
学生 3：（----）
YB: Equality with what?
YB：跟什么平等？
fourth of the world is held by the widows of this earth. So what do you want?
这世上四分之三的寡妇守着这个世界。所以你到底想要什么？
Student 3: (----)
学生 3：（----）
YB: Huh?
YB：嗯？
Student 3: (----)
学生 3：（----）
YB: Equality with what?
YB：跟什么平等？
Student 3: (-----)
学生 3：（-----）
YB: Nobody is stopping it. Nobody is stopping that. No it's not happening from the time immemorial, you can use your intelligence, you can go through anything you want. In the past medieval dark ages, woman have stood their grounds very well and in very high ranking.
YB：没有人在阻止它。没有人在阻止那件事。不，它不是从远古就一直发生的，你可以用你的智力，你可以经历任何你想经历的事。在过去中世纪的黑暗年代，女人非常稳固地守住了自己的立场，而且地位非常高。
Student 4: What about this children of female children (?)
学生 4：那这些孩子，女童呢（？）
YB: Because you are known for your sensuality and public embarrassment to the parents, don't blame on them.
YB：因为你们以性感闻名，还让父母当众难堪，别怪他们。
Student 4: It's a whole cultural problem.
学生 4：这整个是个文化问题。
YB: Because you are known for your sensuality and public embarrassment to the parents, don't blame on them.
YB：因为你们以性感闻名，还让父母当众难堪，别怪他们。
Student 4: It's a whole cultural problem.
学生 4：这整个是个文化问题。
YB: It's not a cultural problem, it's a experience. A centuries old humanity has experienced woman freaking out, moment she starts, moment she becomes fourteen, eleven, sixteen, fifteen, she is total sneak, she is total through her sensuality, she has brought such a embarrassment to family tradition and to parents and to all that stuff. That's why all these things became possible but practically speaking, no parents in their heart ever has hated their daughters but they see from so many years from now, she will be just be a public embarrassment and harassment. Because on a female lies the social structure, whether a female likes it or not.
YB：这不是文化问题，这是一种经验。几百年来，人类经历过女人失控发疯，她一开始，她一到 14 岁、11 岁、16 岁、15 岁，她就完全偷偷摸摸，她完全透过自己的性感行事，她给家族传统、给父母、给所有那一套带来这样的难堪。所以这一切才成为可能，但实际说来，没有父母打心底里恨过自己的女儿，可他们看到，从今往后许多年，她只会成为当众的难堪和骚扰。因为社会结构就压在女性身上，不管女性喜不喜欢。
from now, she will be just be a public embarrassment and harassment. Because on a female lies the social structure, whether a female likes it or not.
从今往后，她只会成为当众的难堪和骚扰。因为社会结构就压在女性身上，不管女性喜不喜欢。
Honor of the house will never be with a man, courage of the house, heroism of the house will be with the man. Honor of the house will always be with the female and when a woman acts sensually and cheaply or in a controlled environment circumstances, that's what the embarrassment is all about. If woman is genuinely a broadminded, wise and intelligent and she has a character and characteristics, you will never ever find such woman insulted ever. No man will ever start with a woman just to insult her, embarrass her or divorce her, they don't have the guts. They have one brain, one track people, how can you expect from them to just go through the rigmarole?
家族的荣誉永远不会在男人身上，家族的勇气、家族的英雄气概会在男人身上。家族的荣誉永远在女性身上，当一个女人表现得性感、廉价，或者在受控的环境和情况下那样做，难堪就在于此。如果一个女人真正心胸开阔、有智慧、有智力，而且她有品格和特质，你永远不会看到这样的女人被侮辱。没有男人会只为了侮辱她、让她难堪或者跟她离婚就去招惹一个女人，他们没那个胆。他们只有一颗脑子，一条道走到黑的人，你怎么能指望他们去走那一整套繁琐的过场？
But first she let it go, let it go, let the abuse happen, let the abuse happen, let it bah-bah-bah then it becomes a havoc, then there is nothing. If all the time woman just stands as a woman, firmly on being herself, question does not arise of a problem.
但首先是她放任了，放任了，让虐待发生，让虐待发生，让它吧—吧—吧，然后就变成一场浩劫，然后就什么都没有了。如果女人始终作为一个女人，坚定地做她自己，问题根本就不会产生。
becomes a havoc, then there is nothing. If all the time woman just stands as a woman, firmly on being herself, question does not arise of a problem.
变成一场浩劫，然后就什么都没有了。如果女人始终作为一个女人，坚定地做她自己，问题根本就不会产生。
What is the equality, four days you should menstruate, four days man should menstruate? You should deliver a baby and he should milk him, feed him nine months? You have your own grace, you have your own department, you have your own dimension, you have your own power, those powers are yours, men don't have them. They will never have them, doesn't matter how intelligent they are. That's why they desire you. Because in this world everything is worshiped as a shakti and you are the shakti, you are the power, you are sixteen times better, there is no doubt about it.
什么是平等，女人该来四天月经，男人也该来四天月经吗？你该生孩子，他就该给你挤奶、喂你九个月吗？你有你自己的优雅，你有你自己的领域，你有你自己的维度，你有你自己的力量，那些力量是你的，男人没有。他们永远也不会有，不管他们多聪明。所以他们才渴望你。因为在这个世界上，一切都被当作夏克提（Shakti）来崇拜，而你就是夏克提，你就是力量，你好上十六倍，这一点毫无疑问。
There is nothing ever will happen, the men will not desire a woman. Forget about it. But question is can you deliver it? When they desire, are you become desirable? Or you are desiring, that's the difference. Men want to depend on you, are you dependable. Deliver the man as a dependable if that man even swear by you, you can chop off my hand.
永远不会发生这样的事，男人不再渴望女人。别想了。但问题是，你能给出它吗？当他们渴望时，你变得令人渴望吗？还是你在渴望，这就是区别。男人想依赖你，你可依赖吗。把男人交付成一个可依赖的人，如果那个男人连你都敢发誓，你可以砍下我的手。
difference. Men want to depend on you, are you dependable. Deliver the man as a dependable if that man even swear by you, you can chop off my hand.
区别。男人想依赖你，你可依赖吗。把男人交付成一个可依赖的人，如果那个男人连你都敢发誓，你可以砍下我的手。
Don't misunderstand for God sake ever in your power. You are the primary power. You give in to men, they chase you, it's true because you are beautiful, you are desirable, you are wonderful. Just don't play sensory game. Play sensible games, plan right, project right, be comprehensive, put all things together, come through. You have to get into the pros and cons of everything and you have to understand any short term gain is a long term loss and you must understand, any scratch will make you cheap.
看在神的份上，永远不要在你的力量里误解。你是原初的力量。你向男人让步，他们追你，这是真的，因为你美丽，你令人渴望，你了不起。只是别玩感官的游戏。玩明智的游戏，计划正确，投射正确，全面周到，把所有事情放在一起，贯通出来。你必须进入每件事的正反两面，你必须明白，任何短期的收益都是长期的损失，你必须明白，任何一点瑕疵都会让你变得廉价。
One day I went to this, you know the shopping center outside, what they call it? Factory outlet. You know, all these designer stuff. I went there and we brought a suit, a ladies dress and I looked at it and I asked that woman, I said, "Show me why it is twenty five percent less, what is defect in it? " She looked around thoroughly, then she said, "Ah, ah, there was one (?) thread not only one. " And we had to take about ten minutes to find it. Do you want all to be sold in a factory outlet or you want to go into a designer showroom?
有一天我去了这个，你知道外面那个购物中心，他们叫它什么？工厂直销店。你知道，全是那些名牌货。我去了那里，我们买了一套西装，一条女装，我看着它，问那个女人，我说：「给我看看它为什么便宜百分之二十五，它有什么瑕疵？」她仔细地看了一圈，然后她说：「啊，啊，有一根（？）线，不止一根。」我们花了大约十分钟才找到它。你是想全部在工厂直销店里被卖掉，还是想进名牌展厅？
one. " And we had to take about ten minutes to find it. Do you want all to be sold in a factory outlet or you want to go into a designer showroom?
一根。」我们花了大约十分钟才找到它。你是想全部在工厂直销店里被卖掉，还是想进名牌展厅？
Whenever you want to go through your, listen another thing ladies, you must understand something, anything you like to control you have to carry it, it will drag you to the graveyard. The only thing you can control is your own discipline, your own character and own your self. Just for God sake, be you and see how much you are respected, loved and admired and you feel fulfilled and how much you enjoy. Don't get into the politics of things. Because your image to begin with, is first introductory image of you is the savior.
每当你想去掌控什么，女士们，再听一件事，你必须明白，任何你想控制的东西，你都得把它扛在身上，它会把你拖进坟墓。你唯一能控制的，是你自己的纪律、你自己的品格、你自己的自己。看在神的份上，做你自己吧，看看你会被多么尊重、多么被爱、多么被钦佩，你会感到满足，你会多么享受。别卷进那些勾心斗角里。因为你一开始的形象，你给人的第一印象，就是救世主。
Every child who is born, for that child you are the savior and that child cannot get out from that syndrome whether you are a wife, you are a mother, girlfriend or sexual friend, even you are a prostitute or you are the lowest of low, for that man he expects you to be the savior. He cannot get into any other thing. That's why Guru says,
每一个出生的孩子，对那个孩子来说你就是救世主，那个孩子逃不出这个情结，不管你是妻子、是母亲、女朋友还是性伴侣，哪怕你是妓女，哪怕你是最低贱中的最低贱，对那个男人来说，他都指望你是救世主。他没法进入任何别的状态。所以古茹说，
"Guru Dev Mata Guru Dev Pita. "
「Guru Dev Mata Guru Dev Pita。」
of low, for that man he expects you to be the savior. He cannot get into any other thing. That's why Guru says,
最低贱中的最低贱，对那个男人来说，他都指望你是救世主。他没法进入任何别的状态。所以古茹说，
"Guru Dev Mata Guru Dev Pita. "
「Guru Dev Mata Guru Dev Pita。」
You are the first Guru, you are the first light, you are the first knowledge, you are the first touch, you are the first savior, you are the first nurturer. You are all. To husband it's the same thing. You don't understand, it's just a little change of angle, not at all another change.
你是第一位古茹，你是第一道光，你是第一份知识，你是第一次触碰，你是第一位救世主，你是第一位养育者。你是一切。对丈夫来说也是一样。你不明白，这只是角度稍微变了一下，根本不是另一种变化。
I was talking that day to a man and he was just misunderstanding.
那天我跟一个男人谈话，他就是误会了。
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... Or not but I made him understand thoroughly well. Because his mother has big breast and he was nurtured by big breast, his wife unfortunately didn't have a big breast. Simple as that and he was dissatisfied and I sat down there forty five minutes explaining to him, that is a mother's breast, this is your wife's breast. It took me forty five minutes to this educated man to understand that there are two breasts for him, breast. He was totally bewitched by it.
……或者不是，但我让他彻底明白了。因为他母亲的乳房很大，他是被大乳房养大的，他妻子偏偏没有大乳房。就这么简单，他就不满意，我坐在那儿四十五分钟跟他解释，那是母亲的乳房，这是你妻子的乳房。我花了四十五分钟，才让这个受过教育的男人明白，对他来说有两个乳房，乳房。他完全被它迷住了。
"My mother has such a beautiful breast. "
「我母亲的乳房那么美。」
I said, "But you could, anytime when you are hungry, you can suck them right? "
我说：「可你随时饿了，都能去吸它，对吧？」
He said, "Yes. "
他说：「对。」
He said, "Anytime you are passionate, you can suck your wife's breast. "
他说：「你随时有了激情，都能去吸你妻子的乳房。」
anytime when you are hungry, you can suck them right? "
你随时饿了，都能去吸它，对吧？」
He said, "Yes. "
他说：「对。」
He said, "Anytime you are passionate, you can suck your wife's breast. "
他说：「你随时有了激情，都能去吸你妻子的乳房。」
He said, "No. It has to be at night. It has to be. "
他说：「不行。必须得在晚上。必须得。」
I said, "Aren't you see the difference? "
我说：「你看不出这区别吗？」
I went through so many scenarios with this nuts and finally he really understood and I said, "She has the right, she is not your mother, she is your wife, she is married to you. She is mother of her children, you have three children. You understand that? Now her breast is their property, not yours. "
我和这个疯子来回推演了那么多情形，最后他终于真的明白了，我说：“她有这个权利，她不是你的母亲，她是你的妻子，她嫁给了你。她是她孩子的母亲，你有三个孩子。你明白吗？现在她的乳房是他们的财产，不是你的。”
He said, "Oh, yeah, I mean my kids have the right over the breast? "
他说：“哦，对，我是说我的孩子们对乳房有权利？”
I said, "Don't you see it? "
我说：“你看不出来吗？”
And then he said, "Well, I have a question. "
然后他说：“好吧，我有个问题。”
I said, "What? "
我说：“什么？”
"What you are telling me is real? "
“你跟我讲的是真的吗？”
I said, "No, I am making it up. "
我说：“不，是我编的。”
(?) I mean to say he is a full fledged forty eight, fifty year old man.
（？）我是说，他是个完完全全四十八、五十岁的成年男人。
Don't ever misunderstand your impact on a man as a woman and don't misunderstand when cannot deliver his impact, what disaster you face. Your entire pain in life is because of this nondelivery. You think he is a nut.
永远不要误解你作为一个女人对一个男人的影响，也不要误解当他无法给出他的影响时，你会面对什么样的灾难。你一生中所有的痛苦，都来自这种无法给出。你觉得他是个疯子。
This lady was telling me, "Well, he is mom's boy. "
这位女士跟我说：“唉，他就是妈妈的孩子。”
I said, "Then what? "
我说：“那又怎样？”
"He is mom's boy"
“他就是妈妈的孩子”
is because of this nondelivery. You think he is a nut.
就是因为这种无法给出。你觉得他是个疯子。
This lady was telling me, "Well, he is mom's boy. "
这位女士跟我说：“唉，他就是妈妈的孩子。”
I said, "Then what? "
我说：“那又怎样？”
"He is mom's boy"
“他就是妈妈的孩子”
"Then what? Make him your boy. "
“那又怎样？把他变成你的孩子。”
"How do I cater to him? "
“我该怎么去迎合他？”
I said, "Don't cater to him, create him, he will be grateful to you. "
我说：“别去迎合他，去创造他，他会对你心怀感激。”
Never cater to a man, he thinks it is cheap. Create the man, he will be with you rest of his life. You will have no pain of a broken family or a mess in the house. Don't play your children against your husband, don't play the domestic problems against your husband, don't play your personal neurosis against your husband. It is uncreative. Do you understand what I am saying? Men are very selfish. You understand, when they are born they cry, mother give them the booboo, are you there, what that means? It's a sweet milk and warm booboo. What's there to laugh? Do you understand that? Are you with me or not? If you don't understand this little point, rest of the life you are going to suffer.
永远不要去迎合一个男人，他会觉得那很廉价。去创造这个男人，他会一辈子跟着你。你就不会有破碎家庭的痛苦，也不会有家里一团糟的麻烦。不要拿你的孩子去对抗你的丈夫，不要拿家里的问题去对抗你的丈夫，不要拿你个人的神经质去对抗你的丈夫。那是没有创造性的。你明白我在说什么吗？男人非常自私。你懂吗，他们一出生就哭，母亲给他们奶头，你在不在，那是什么意思？那是甜甜的奶和温暖的奶头。这有什么好笑的？你明白吗？你跟不跟得上我？如果你不明白这小小的一点，余生你都要受苦。
there to laugh? Do you understand that? Are you with me or not? If you don't understand this little point, rest of the life you are going to suffer.
有什么好笑的？你明白吗？你跟不跟得上我？如果你不明白这小小的一点，余生你都要受苦。
Listen to this. When they are hungry, correct? Inconvenient, whatever, correct? Cold, right? So they go to mama's booboo, give them warm milk and there comes a shawl around them and warm and soft feeling, correct? You think they forget that? Do you? Exactly your total value to a man is exactly that comfort. It will never change, you may graduate, you may have great status, you may become the greatest woman (?) and anywhere that comfort will go. From a prince to a prostitute man will keep on seeking that till his death. You don't have to read books and go through the family planning and family counseling and family this and family that, all that is a waste of time and money.
听好了。他们饿的时候，对不对？不舒服的时候，随便什么，对不对？冷的时候，对吧？于是他们扑向妈妈的怀抱，给他温热的奶，然后一条披肩裹上来，温暖又柔软的感觉，对不对？你以为他们会忘掉这些吗？你会吗？你对一个男人全部的价值，恰恰就是那份安慰。这一点永远不会变，你可能学业有成，你可能地位显赫，你可能成为最了不起的女人（？），无论到哪里，那份安慰都会跟着。从一个王子到一个妓女，男人会一直寻找那份安慰，直到死。你不用去读那些书，去搞什么计划生育、家庭咨询、家庭这个、家庭那个，那些全是浪费时间和金钱。
As it is a male or a female egg, you provide a comfortable bed in the very, in the very, you trust, uterus. You understand that? Correct. Men seek that, that egg seek that. You uterus, yeah, it is you trust.
无论是男性还是女性的卵子，你都在那个，那个，你信任的，子宫里，提供了一张舒适的床。你明白吗？对。男人寻找的就是那个，那个卵子寻找的就是那个。你的子宫，是的，就是你信任的。
bed in the very, in the very, you trust, uterus. You understand that? Correct. Men seek that, that egg seek that. You uterus, yeah, it is you trust.
那个，那个，你信任的，子宫里的床。你明白吗？对。男人寻找的就是那个，那个卵子寻找的就是那个。你的子宫，是的，就是你信任的。
You know you use the word, English word virgin, you know? There is a equal word in Indian, Veerjan, veer means brother, jan means people. Brotherly people. You know you use the English word church, there is a equal word in east, charcha, charcha means where you can sit and discuss and talk and church is the place where you do that. You have to understand, expression of man is everywhere the same, it will never change. All man needs a comprehensive understanding with any woman he is in that he shall be comforted. And in English they say, man seeks a woman to put it on her head on pillow and can speak to her in confidence or in trust. If man cannot trust you, man cannot?
你知道你们用这个词，英文词 virgin，知道吗？在印度语里有一个对应的词，Veerjan，veer 意思是兄弟，jan 意思是人们。兄弟般的人们。你知道你们用英文词 church，在东方有一个对应的词，charcha，charcha 意思是你可以坐下来讨论、交谈的地方，而 church 就是你做这件事的地方。你必须明白，人的表达在哪里都是一样的，它永远不会变。所有男人需要的，是与他相处的任何女人都能有一种全面的理解——他会被安慰。英文里说，男人寻找一个女人，是为了能把头枕在她身上，能对她推心置腹、信任地说话。如果男人不能信任你，男人就不能？
Students: Trust you.
学生：信任你。
a woman to put it on her head on pillow and can speak to her in confidence or in trust. If man cannot trust you, man cannot?
一个女人，是为了能把头枕在她身上，能对她推心置腹、信任地说话。如果男人不能信任你，男人就不能？
Students: Trust you.
学生：信任你。
YB: Every relationship with that man is a bust. No good. You have problems, men have problems, the world has problems. Time is between problem to problem, so please don't misunderstand anything is come problem free, problemless and anybody is promising you, you are just drunk. You know, when people wants to drink, they always drink first alcohol, right? Oh, harsh on them and then they just lose some sense, wow, for that they end up drinking bottles. Have you not seen men and women quite of age, licking those cone of the ice-cream? That is practicing their boob, you see how do they do, (?) how do they look, I mean they are very smartly aged people, they are holding in a hand and (?)
YB：和那个男人的每一段关系都是泡影。没好处。你有问题，男人有问题，世界有问题。时间就是在问题与问题之间，所以请不要误会，以为有什么东西是没有问题、毫无问题的，谁要是这样向你保证，你只是醉了。你知道，人想喝的时候，总是先喝酒，对吧？哦，先对他们凶一点，然后他们就失去一些理智，哇，最后就一瓶一瓶地喝下去。你没见过上了年纪的男人和女人，舔着那冰淇淋蛋筒吗？那是在练习他们的……你看他们怎么做，（？）他们看起来怎样，我是说，他们都是年纪不小、很精明的人，一只手拿着，（？）
do you see it? What they are looking for? That sweetness? It may be frozen yogurt or it may be ice-cream. Did you see? Do you understand the satisfaction of that licking? What they are looking for? A little sweetness, little coolness, huh? You don't understand, do you?
你看到了吗？他们在找什么？那点甜味？可能是冻酸奶，也可能是冰淇淋。你看到了吗？你明白那种舔的满足感吗？他们在找什么？一点甜，一点凉，嗯？你不明白，对吧？
Students: Yes sir.
学生：明白，先生。
YB: You do. Okay. Then you are all very wise and comfortable.
YB：你明白。好。那你们都很明智，也很自在。
sweetness, little coolness, huh? You don't understand, do you?
一点甜，一点凉，嗯？你不明白，对吧？
Students: Yes sir.
学生：明白，先生。
YB: You do. Okay. Then you are all very wise and comfortable.
YB：你明白。好。那你们都很明智，也很自在。
Once somebody told, "My husband is da-da-da. "
有一次有人告诉我：「我丈夫是这这那那的。」
I said, "Give him ice-cream cone. "
我说：「给他一个冰淇淋蛋筒。」
She said, "Do you hear him on the telephone? "
她说：「你听到他在电话里说的了吗？」
I said, "Yeah. He is saying either agree or I will kill you, that's what he is saying. "
我说：「听到了。他说的要么你同意，要么我杀了你，他就是这么说的。」
She said, "Yes. "
她说：「是的。」
I said, "Tell him if you can lick this ice-cream cone nicely sitting on the stool," in the kitchen they were fighting and I knew there were knives around, "and you can do that then I will agree to you. "
我说：「告诉他，如果他能好好地坐在凳子上把这冰淇淋蛋筒舔完，」他们当时在厨房里吵架，我知道周围有刀，「他能做到，我就同意你。」
And he said, "Oh yes I can do it. Give me this. "
他说：「哦，是的，我能做到。给我这个。」
So she gave him one ice-cream cone out of the refrigerator and he started licking it. Next day I said, "What happened? "
于是她从冰箱里拿出一个冰淇淋蛋筒给他，他就开始舔。第二天我说：「怎么样了？」
And he said, "Oh, we went to home and we went in bedroom and we had a sex. "
他说：「哦，我们回了家，进了卧室，做了爱。」
I said, "Good. That was expected. " And on the other hand he was killing her, what happened to that killing? Forgotten?
我说：「好。这是意料之中的。」可另一方面，他本来是要杀她的，那杀人的事呢？忘了？
Men are funny. We will talk about them tomorrow. Yeah?
男人很滑稽。我们明天再谈他们。好吗？
Students: Yeah. Meanwhile, may the...
学生：好。与此同时，愿……
(Students sing "May the long time.... ")
（学生唱「愿那永恒的阳光……」）
YB: Sat...
YB：Sat……
Students: Sat Nam.
学生：Sat Nam。
will talk about them tomorrow. Yeah?
明天再谈他们。好吗？
Students: Yeah. Meanwhile, may the...
学生：好。与此同时，愿……
(Students sing "May the long time.... ")
（学生唱「愿那永恒的阳光……」）
YB: Sat...
YB：Sat……
Students: Sat Nam.
学生：Sat Nam。
YB: God bless us, give us strength to not to walk our way on but to guide our way on. Give us the conscious living to guide our destiny and cover our distance. Give us the strength of our sensory system so we can use the commonsense and be wise, elegant, graceful and prosperous. Sat Nam.
YB：神保佑我们，赐我们力量，让我们不走自己的路，而是指引我们走上正路。赐我们有觉知的生活，去指引我们的命运，走完我们的路程。赐我们感官系统的力量，让我们能运用常识，变得明智、优雅、优美、丰盛。Sat Nam。