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Please sit down, please sit down, I am not very dangerous.
请坐下，请坐下，我没那么可怕。
Student: These are all the teachers that teach women’s yoga and pregnancy yoga.
学生：这些都是教女性瑜伽和孕期瑜伽的老师。
YB: That’s good. Any is pregnant?
YB：那很好。有谁怀孕了吗？
Oh hi.
哦，你好。
Student: Sat Nam.
学生：Sat Nam。
YB: God, you produced good babies.
YB：天哪，你生的孩子真好。
So, you, how old you are? And you teach yoga? Single, married?
那么，你，你多大了？你教瑜伽？单身，已婚？
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: (?) and how hold you are? Don’t worry. You are single or married?
YB：（？）你多大了？别担心。你是单身还是已婚？
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: You are single with a child? That’s all right. Nothing to worry.
YB：你单身还带着一个孩子？没关系。没什么好担心的。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: And you are single? Married?
YB：那你呢，单身？已婚？
Student: No, want to marry.
学生：不，想结婚。
Student: She is living together (?) and they are going to
学生：她和他住在一起（？），他们打算
YB: (?), common arrangement, you call it common arrangement not yet writing but everything else (?).
YB：（？），常见的安排，你管它叫常见的安排，还没签字，但其他什么都（？）。
Student: I am thirty eight and I have twins, boys, two boys and I am still married.
学生：我三十八岁，我有一对双胞胎，男孩，两个男孩，而且我还没离婚。
YB: Still married?
YB：还没离婚？
Student: Yeah, the husband left.
学生：对，丈夫走了。
YB: Disappeared?
YB：消失了？
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
and I have twins, boys, two boys and I am still married.
我有一对双胞胎，男孩，两个男孩，而且我还没离婚。
YB: Still married?
YB：还没离婚？
Student: Yeah, the husband left.
学生：对，丈夫走了。
YB: Disappeared?
YB：消失了？
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: Yeah, men are very, I mean to say, my idea is that, this is my tragedy. Twenty years ago I came in United States and I started studying the western world as it is and I found out the woman is very naive, she just give herself up for nothing, I mean there is no basic commitment and illusion. Her basic commitment, 'I love, you love me, puch, puch, puch this and this whole thing' but the psychological nucleus of which the women, please come in, (?).
YB：对，男人非常，我的意思是说，我的看法是，这是我的悲哀。二十年前我来到美国，我开始研究西方世界本来的样子，我发现女人非常天真，她白白把自己交出去，我的意思是，没有基本的承诺，只有幻象。她的基本承诺是，「我爱，你爱我，噗、噗、噗，这个那个」，但女人心理上的核心，请进，（？）。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
love, you love me, puch, puch, puch this and this whole thing' but the psychological nucleus of which the women, please come in, (?).
我爱，你爱我，噗、噗、噗，这个那个」，但女人心理上的核心，请进，（？）。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: (?) Very good, very good. My, my, my most painful thing which I have realized. There is no more crazy animal on the planet, but a woman. It is not that they are not wise. What I have found is that, they always know where the relationship will be, there is not a, I must have counsel about ten million people. And every woman knew where the relationship will lead to. But still they are blinding themself. It's amazing. Not that it is ordinary woman, I have seen women who are very competent, capable, highly in government, highly in business. Even I have seen, investigated women very high prostitutes, just to, just to figure out what is wrong. The only thing I have found wrong with the woman.
YB：（？）很好，很好。我，我，我意识到的最痛苦的一件事。这个星球上没有比女人更疯狂的动物了。不是说她们不聪明。我发现的是，她们总是知道这段关系会走到哪里，没有例外，我一定咨询过大约一千万人。每个女人都知道这段关系会通向哪里。但她们还是蒙住自己的眼睛。太惊人了。不是普通女人，我见过非常能干、有本事、在政府里职位很高、在商界职位很高的女人。我甚至见过、调查过地位很高的妓女，就为了，就为了弄清楚哪里出了问题。我发现女人身上唯一的问题。
"Maybe it will workout. " Well it may, workout or not workout. There is no such thing as maybe in woman's life. Because once the penis gets in.
「也许能成。」好吧，也许能成，也许不能成。女人的生活里没有「也许」这回事。因为一旦阴茎进去了。
(Students laugh)
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workout. " Well it may, workout or not workout. There is no such thing as maybe in woman's life. Because once the penis gets in.
练习。“好吧，也许有用，也许没用。在女人的生命里没有‘也许’这回事。因为一旦阴茎进去了。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Then the (?) You have to take (?) it is a very medical, medical situation. Once it gets in. And it's space. And that spermatozoa catches the egg. Female has to live rest of her life with it. Man has not. This fundamental difference woman has to honor. But they don't. Answer me, why? Open for discussion yet. I am sixty-one year old. If I have said to anybody of... Doesn't matter what happen to me. I have stood with it. At the cost of disgrace, pain, betrayal, tragedy, lie, doesn't matter what. People ask me, "Why? " I say, "I said, it. It was wrong, it was blinding, it was terrible, it was miserable, it was beautiful doesn't matter. But the fact is, I said it. There's no way out.
然后那（？）你必须接受（？）这是一个非常医学性的、医学性的状况。一旦它进去了。进入了那个空间。精子抓住了卵子。女人就得带着它过完余生。男人不用。这个根本的差异，女人必须尊重。但她们不尊重。回答我，为什么？现在开放讨论。我六十一岁了。如果我对任何人说过……不管我遭遇了什么。我都坚守它。以耻辱、痛苦、背叛、悲剧、谎言为代价，不管是什么。人们问我：“为什么？”我说：“我说过，就是说过。那是错的，那是盲目的，那是可怕的，那是悲惨的，那是美好的，都不重要。但事实是，我说过。没有退路。
Because, world is dying. Maybe I was innocent, naive. Maybe it was spontaneous. But I said it. And that is human. " Why you cannot be so. And why there is so much, may be in your life. Yeah.
因为，世界正在死去。也许我当时天真、幼稚。也许是自发的。但我说过。那就是人。为什么你做不到这样。为什么你的生命里有那么多‘也许’。嗯。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: No, no.
YB：不，不。
But I said it. And that is human. " Why you cannot be so. And why there is so much, may be in your life. Yeah.
但我说过。那就是人。为什么你做不到这样。为什么你的生命里有那么多‘也许’。嗯。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: No, no.
YB：不，不。
Can you not tell a man, this won't go in until there is a guarantee. You are, you are. You all know your hate. But when it comes to acting, you don't act, I want to know why. Knowing the man is a hunter. No, you must understand, no man is born to be a man. He has born with the faculties being hunter. Because he got the penis, seven months in the womb of the mother. And he lost the right side of the brain. That you all must know. So his faculty is, it is his basic faculty to hunt a woman. You have to, you have to come out with this façade of love. It's his hunting facade. That every, every woman, everybody of you knows it. And still you give in why?
你能不能告诉一个男人，在得到保证之前，这不能进去。你是，你就是。你们都知道自己的恨。但到了行动的时候，你们不行动，我想知道为什么。明知道男人是个猎人。不，你必须明白，没有哪个男人生来就是男人。他生来就带着猎人的官能。因为他在母亲子宫里七个月时得到了阴茎。他失去了右脑。这一点你们都必须知道。所以他的官能就是，猎取女人是他最基本的官能。你必须，你必须拿出爱这副面具。那是他的猎取面具。每一个，每一个女人，你们每一个人都知道。可你还是屈服了，为什么？
Student: Because we believed that...
学生：因为我们相信……
YB: Believe what?
YB：相信什么？
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
You can't, you can't, you, you, you know it, you can't. I am yet to meet one woman, I mean I have played the game, I know it, it's a game and people play with me even, but I know, I know you all know it's a game. Yes that is you must understand I do not, I will not get pregnant, doesn't matter what they do to me.
你不能，你不能，你，你，你知道的，你不能。我还没遇到过一个女人，我是说，我玩过这个游戏，我知道，这是个游戏，人们甚至跟我玩，但我知道，我知道你们都知道这是个游戏。是的，你必须明白，我不会，我不会怀孕，不管他们对我做什么。
but I know, I know you all know it's a game. Yes that is you must understand I do not, I will not get pregnant, doesn't matter what they do to me.
但我知道，我知道你们都知道这是个游戏。是的，你必须明白，我不会，我不会怀孕，不管他们对我做什么。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
And I will not bear a child. How come, how come you are equal with me there is no way. You are more responsible, you have to carry more responsibility, so you must be wiser. And God made woman sixteen times more wiser than a man. A female has a intuition, man doesn't, man has to become a Yogi, work himself to be intuitive. But they are hunters, and do you know that no man loves a woman, do you know that, do you know that, a man cannot love a woman, do you know that? Yeah, well he can't, there is a physical situation they can't love a woman. All they love is how much passion a man can get and how much pituitary to make his penis hard, that's all it is.
而我不会生孩子。怎么会，你怎么会和我平等，根本不可能。你承担得更多，你必须背负更多责任，所以你必须更有智慧。神让女人比男人有智慧十六倍。女性有直觉，男人没有，男人必须成为瑜伽士（Yogi），自己下功夫才能有直觉。但他们是猎人，你知道没有哪个男人爱女人吗，你知道吗，你知道吗，男人无法爱女人，你知道吗？对，他就是不能，有一种生理上的状况让他们无法爱女人。他们爱的只是男人能得到多少激情，垂体能让他的阴茎硬多久，就这些。
That is why they are into maintenance, they are not into expansion or exploring and, that's why it is very boring for a woman after a while marriage or man doesn't mean anything, because he cannot go beyond, he knows he can get in that's all right and then he is just maintaining it.
所以他们只热衷于维持，他们不热衷于扩展或探索，所以过了一阵子，婚姻或男人对女人来说就变得非常无聊，毫无意义，因为他无法超越，他知道自己能进去，那没问题，然后他就只是维持着它。
while marriage or man doesn't mean anything, because he cannot go beyond, he knows he can get in that's all right and then he is just maintaining it.
而婚姻或男人毫无意义，因为他无法超越，他知道自己能进去，那没问题，然后他就只是维持着它。
Do you understand that, he said, no there you go, he said, no, that is what I am asking the women, twenty years I have started this, asking women to be grace of God, asking women to be strong, I have spent twenty years of my life. it doesn't matter how beautiful you are or how rich you are, if you do not develop a standard of grace, uncompromised standard of grace you will be exploited and then you will be hurt, then you will be angry, then you will pass on that anger to children, is on and on, see how much I know a woman.
你明白吗，他说，不，就是这样，他说，不，这就是我一直在问女人们的事，二十年前我就开始了，请女人们成为神的优雅，请女人们坚强，我花了二十年的生命。不管你多漂亮或多富有，如果你不培养出一种优雅的标准，不妥协的优雅标准，你就会被剥削，然后你会受伤，然后你会愤怒，然后你会把那份愤怒传给孩子，一直传下去，看我对女人有多了解。
Because once the hook is in the mouth of the fish, he is out and the bait is love (?),
因为一旦钩子进了鱼的嘴里，他就完了，而诱饵是爱（？），
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: Come on, come on, I will give you (?), come in.
YB：来吧，来吧，我会给你（？），进来。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Wait, wait, sit down here. You have met me. You want to know whether I am a Goodman or bad man or lover or a bad lover or whether I am honest or dishonest. You want me very badly. You want real relationship.
等等，等等，坐这儿。你见过我了。你想知道我到底是好人还是坏人，是情人还是糟糕的情人，是诚实还是不诚实。你非常想要我。你想要真正的关系。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Goodman or bad man or lover or a bad lover or whether I am honest or dishonest. You want me very badly. You want real relationship.
好人还是坏人，是情人还是糟糕的情人，是诚实还是不诚实。你非常想要我。你想要真正的关系。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Now, use your intuition and you can in three question know what sort of man I am, three question only it takes. Ask me those three questions, yo, yo, yo, yo, only you have three questions that's it.
现在，用你的直觉，你可以在三个问题内知道我是哪种男人，只需要三个问题。问我那三个问题，哟，哟，哟，哟，你只有三个问题，就这样。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
A woman has only three questions if she cannot find out the man in three questions, she can never find it out. Come on.
一个女人只有三个问题，如果她三个问题之内看不出这个男人，她就永远看不出来。来吧。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: No, no, no, absolutely wrong question. First is shake hand with the man, shake hand if in that hand he is polite, gentle and forwards himself, that, that is one, otherwise men never go you mind it. Shake hand with me, shake hand with me, shake hands, see, see the touch, you know, you don't need to ask a question, after this shake hand, you know if otherwise I say, (?).
YB：不，不，不，这个问题完全错了。第一是跟这个男人握手，握手，如果在那只手里他是礼貌的、温和的，而且把自己往前递出来，那，那算一个，否则男人永远不会，你记住。跟我握手，跟我握手，握手，看，看那个触碰，你知道，你不需要问问题，握完这个手，你就知道了，否则我说，（？）。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
hands, see, see the touch, you know, you don't need to ask a question, after this shake hand, you know if otherwise I say, (?).
手，看，看那个触碰，你知道，你不需要问问题，握完这个手，你就知道了，否则我说，（？）。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
All I say, you are just like little, no, if I, if I hide something, I will shake, not pull or I will overpower, I will over shake. One, second. Second is that I will, I will lay it out straight, my strength, without hiding anything. Absolutely no eye and thirdly the saddest thing, I will never listen to you and never will agree with you. Because I will carry you. These are the three tests, if a man comes through, he is a man, otherwise you are hiring a donkey and that's all. Man of virtue, man of virtue knows that he is to carry a woman. It is ingrained in him, he has to hunt and he has carry the hunt, therefore there is no agreement.
我只说，你就像个小，不，如果我，如果我藏了什么，我会摇，不是拉，或者我会压过去，我会摇过头。第一，第二。第二是我会，我会把它直直地摆出来，我的力量，什么都不藏。绝对不看眼睛，第三件最惨的事，我永远不会听你的，也永远不会同意你。因为我会扛着你。这就是三个测试，如果一个男人过了，他就是个男人，否则你就是在雇一头驴，仅此而已。有德行的男人，有德行的男人知道他是要扛一个女人的。这刻在他骨子里，他必须去打猎，他必须把猎物扛回来，所以没有同意这回事。
He will never say yes to your anything, doesn't matter what you do, all he has to say, 'I know, you shut up, I'll take care of it' and he will, if that, that guts are not there, man will say, 'no, no please let us talk, please,' moment he says please.
他永远不会对你的任何事说是，不管你做什么，他只需说，「我知道，你闭嘴，我来处理」，而且他会处理，如果，如果没那个胆，男人就会说，「不，不，拜托我们谈谈，拜托，」他一说拜托。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
care of it' and he will, if that, that guts are not there, man will say, 'no, no please let us talk, please,' moment he says please.
我来处理」，而且他会处理，如果，如果没那个胆，男人就会说，「不，不，拜托我们谈谈，拜托，」他一说拜托。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Man will never, never convince you, he will never agree with you, he will never be very polished and pleasing, because he has to carry you, it's a very simple, honest evidence. It doesn't matter he is poor, or he is weak or he is young, it doesn't matter anything. Once a woman becomes his fate, he shall carry you doesn't matter what and first thing is he shall never agree. You will never find him in agreement with you for, this man who does puch, puch, puch I love you and yeyeyayeyeya and he is all over you or maybe, they are not men.
男人永远不会，永远不会说服你，他永远不会同意你，他永远不会很圆滑、很讨人喜欢，因为他要扛着你，这是非常简单、诚实的证据。不管他穷，还是他弱，还是他年轻，什么都不管。一旦一个女人成了他的命运，他就要扛着你，不管怎样，第一件事就是他永远不会同意。你永远不会发现他同意你，因为，这个噗嗤、噗嗤、噗嗤说我爱你、耶耶耶耶耶、整个人扑在你身上的男人，也许，他们不是男人。
Student: Does a man need lot of courage to carry a lady?
学生：一个男人要扛一个女人，需要很多勇气吗？
YB: No, no, no, it is very, man is, that is the, his basic instinct as a man.
YB：不，不，不，这很，男人就是，那就是他作为男人的基本本能。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Student: Once known does a man know when it is like this, you know, at what moment does the man know, that is the woman of my fate, that, that is she.
学生：一旦知道了，人怎么知道就是这样的呢，你知道，在哪个时刻人会知道，这就是我命里的那个女人，就是，就是她。
Student: Once known does a man know when it is like this, you know, at what moment does the man know, that is the woman of my fate, that, that is she.
学生：一旦知道了，人怎么知道就是这样的呢，你知道，在哪个时刻人会知道，这就是我命里的那个女人，就是，就是她。
YB: No, it is a cross, first cross of the eyes. Man, man of courage will say, "I love you, you love me? " And she said, no or she say, yes. His deal will be straight, he will deal very straight, man of, very powerful, very courageous, very straight, no, no game, because today he plays a game, tomorrow he plays game to leave you.
YB：不，那是一个十字，首先是目光的十字。男人，有勇气的男人会说：「我爱你，你爱我吗？」她说，不，或者她说，是。他的做法会很直接，他会处理得非常直接，那种男人，非常强大，非常有勇气，非常直接，不，不玩把戏，因为今天他玩把戏，明天他玩把戏就是为了离开你。
Student: (?) are having problems with their husbands because they are doing yoga, they are developing themselves, they are becoming more conscious, what is going on (?) so the question here is...
学生：（？）和她们的丈夫有问题，因为她们在练瑜伽，她们在提升自己，她们变得更有觉知，到底是怎么回事（？）所以这里的问题是……
YB: What is wrong?
YB：哪里不对？
Student: Okay,
学生：好，
YB: Wrong is...
YB：不对的是……
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: It's a very simple thing, a relationship, which has fear, which has game to play is established, it's not relationship. You get marry out of insecurity, you get married out of your young and you want a man, you got married because should say puch, puch, puch business, you know, you didn't get married and you didn't fall in love that you had a man. So, if now you got a man, make him a man.
YB：这是很简单的事，一段关系，如果里面有恐惧，有把戏要玩，那是被建立起来的东西，它不是关系。你出于不安全感结婚，你因为年轻而结婚，你想要一个男人，你结婚是因为该说 puch，puch，puch 那套生意，你知道，你不是因为结了婚、不是因为坠入爱河才有一个男人。所以，如果现在你有了一个男人，就把他变成一个男人。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
business, you know, you didn't get married and you didn't fall in love that you had a man. So, if now you got a man, make him a man.
那套生意，你知道，你不是因为结了婚、不是因为坠入爱河才有一个男人。所以，如果现在你有了一个男人，就把他变成一个男人。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Take the skin out and say, 'this is the man and this is the man, you want me or you don't want me,' that is, that is reality.
把皮剥掉，说：「这就是那个男人，这就是那个男人，你要我还是不要我」，那才是，那才是现实。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: Yeah, very politely, very smilingly and very straightforwardly. I tell you my own example. I have a wife. She is about fifty-five and I am sixty-one and three, four years I got sick, I have about twelve members of the staff, about five, six, seven staff members are not married, they are single and they are ladies. So I and my wife decided that these people have served us, whether they think I am a man or they think I am a father or they think I am their spiritual teacher, but they have a dedicated life.
YB：对，非常有礼貌，非常面带微笑，也非常直接。我告诉你我自己的例子。我有妻子。她大约 55 岁，我 61 岁，三四年前我病了，我有大约 12 个工作人员，大约 5、6、7 个工作人员没有结婚，她们是单身，而且是女士。所以我和我妻子决定，这些人服务过我们，不管她们认为我是一个男人，还是认为我是一个父亲，还是认为我是她们的灵性老师，但她们过的是奉献的生活。
Majority of the property I gave it to the religion, which mean I gave it to these ladies who are working, they will be officers, but there is certain amount, which is called family problem.
大部分财产我给了宗教，也就是说我给了这些在工作着的女士，她们会成为负责人，但有一定数额，那叫做家庭问题。
religion, which mean I gave it to these ladies who are working, they will be officers, but there is certain amount, which is called family problem.
宗教，也就是说我给了这些在工作着的女士，她们会成为负责人，但有一定数额，那叫做家庭问题。
So what I and my wife did, we made half of the property to go to my blood children and half of the property go to these my spiritual children. The Attorney who was writing my estate will did not agree, she flew into see what kind of man I am, I mean I am real. I told her, 'if am giving one, fifty percent to my blood children, these are my blood children too, these are my spiritual children, what's the difference. ' She said, "We do not know how to write it, nobody does it. " I said, "I'll do it. I don't want after my death, these people who work for me should be on the road. " I also made a proclamation that if I (?), he cannot fire a member of my staff till alive.
所以我和我妻子所做的，就是把一半财产给我亲生的孩子，另一半财产给我这些灵性的孩子。那位写我遗产遗嘱的律师不同意，她飞过来看看我是什么样的人，我是说我是真实的。我告诉她，「如果我把百分之五十给我亲生的孩子，这些也是我亲生的孩子，这些是我灵性的孩子，有什么区别。」她说，「我们不知道怎么这样写，没人这么做。」我说，「我来做。我不想在我死后，这些为我工作的人流落街头。」我还宣布，如果我（？），他不能解雇我员工中的任何一员，只要他还活着。
death, these people who work for me should be on the road. " I also made a proclamation that if I (?), he cannot fire a member of my staff till alive.
死后，这些为我工作的人会流落街头。」我还宣布，如果我（？），他不能解雇我员工中的任何一员，只要他还活着。
If he chooses to do so, he shall be removed as Siri Sing Sahib despite his best ability, period. All he has the power to add one his personal secretary that's it. Because I feel honestly if I can work with my structure, he must be intelligent enough to work with that structure, if he cannot, he doesn't deserve that chair, that's a straight honesty, no nonsense about it, simple, solid statement of fact. No puch, puch, puch business.
如果他选择这么做，他将被免去 Siri Sing Sahib 的职位，不管他能力多强，就这样。他唯一有的权力就是加一个他的私人秘书，仅此而已。因为我诚实地觉得，如果我能和我的结构一起运作，他必须足够聪明能和那个结构一起运作，如果他不能，他就不配坐那把椅子，这是直截了当的诚实，没有废话，简单、坚实的陈述事实。没有 puch、puch、puch 那一套。
Puch, puch is buttering and making it to look good when it is not. Stimulating to make you blind. Man will never blind his woman, why man needs a woman? Not for intercourse, not for children, for nothing, only for one thing. When he put his head on a pillow he can talk to somebody honestly and share. Otherwise I am yet to see a man honest enough, to be real enough, no I am a man myself. I had to become a Yogi to become a man, I don't know, I know men and I know their weakness.
Puch、puch 就是拍马屁，让它看起来很好，其实并不好。刺激你，让你盲目。男人永远不会让他的女人盲目，男人为什么需要女人？不是为了性交，不是为了孩子，什么都不是，只为一件事。当他把头放在枕头上时，他能和某个人诚实地说话、分享。否则我还没见过一个男人足够诚实、足够真实，不，我自己就是男人。我必须成为一个瑜伽士才能成为一个男人，我不知道，我了解男人，我了解他们的弱点。
Student: But also (?) encourage to search for other kind of man.
学生：但也（？）鼓励去寻找另一种男人。
become a Yogi to become a man, I don't know, I know men and I know their weakness.
成为一个瑜伽士才能成为一个男人，我不知道，我了解男人，我了解他们的弱点。
Student: But also (?) encourage to search for other kind of man.
学生：但也（？）鼓励去寻找另一种男人。
YB: Lady has to courage to search for a man, not other man, this man, that man.
YB：女士要有勇气去寻找一个男人，不是别的男人，这个男人、那个男人。
Student: She is afraid to be near to somebody. She is afraid of nearness, of closeness
学生：她害怕靠近某个人。她害怕亲近、害怕亲密。
YB: You know, why closeness, investigate it. Neither be loving, nor be afraid, find out the facts, nobody is going to give you nine pounds of weight and not carry it rest of the life with you.
YB：你知道，为什么亲密，去探究它。既不要有爱，也不要害怕，找出事实，没有人会给你九磅的重量，然后让你余生不用背着它。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: True, so don't say you need a man, you need a sex. Sex.
YB：没错，所以别说你需要一个男人，你需要的是性。性。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Then you are not looking for a man, you are looking for a sex and go to a sex shop, at Hamburg airport there is a sex shop. No I, I mean (?) do you know in Frankfurt airport there's a sex shop, on the airport, too much for me. So what I am asking is that, make a profile that you must know that profile if fits in then there's a man is worth talking about. Don't find a man because of loneliness, don't want a man because of company, don't find a man because of sex, don't find a man with a good looks and a good hooks, find a man which is a man.
那么你找的不是一个男人，你找的是性，那就去性用品店，汉堡机场就有一家性用品店。不，我是说（？）你知道法兰克福机场有一家性用品店吗，就在机场里，对我来说太过分了。所以我要说的是，你得先定一个标准，你必须清楚那个标准，如果符合，那这个男人才值得一谈。不要因为孤独去找男人，不要因为想有个伴就想要男人，不要因为性去找男人，不要因为长得好看、有魅力就去找男人，要找一个真正是男人的男人。
don't want a man because of company, don't find a man because of sex, don't find a man with a good looks and a good hooks, find a man which is a man.
不要因为想有个伴就想要男人，不要因为性去找男人，不要因为长得好看、有魅力就去找男人，要找一个真正是男人的男人。
It is my experience that ninety-nine percent women knows what man is and every woman can find ninety-nine percent a man, but they don't try honestly, if a woman challenges man to a man, ninety percent of men will come through to be man, I experimented it, I had a student who was very playboy and he told me that the (?) has become a student, he doesn't want to marry and he has got forty, fifty girlfriends, why should he get married, and when you can get a bottle milk, why should have cows and cows dung and all that stuff (?) yeah finally (?) family, children, bah, bah, bah.
根据我的经验，百分之九十九的女人都知道男人是什么，每个女人都能找到百分之九十九的男人，但她们没有诚实地去尝试，如果一个女人把男人当男人来挑战，百分之九十的男人会成为真正的男人，我实验过，我有一个学生非常花花公子，他告诉我（？）成了学生，他不想结婚，他有四十、五十个女朋友，为什么要结婚，当你能买到一瓶牛奶，为什么要养牛、还要处理牛粪和那一堆东西（？）是啊，最后（？）家庭、孩子，呸，呸，呸。
and when you can get a bottle milk, why should have cows and cows dung and all that stuff (?) yeah finally (?) family, children, bah, bah, bah.
当你能买到一瓶牛奶，为什么要养牛、还要处理牛粪和那一堆东西（？）是啊，最后（？）家庭、孩子，呸，呸，呸。
So he gave me a standard, yeah, a standard that, if a woman or he is willing to marry a woman, he brought his one girlfriend. If she is better than this then he will marry. Okay. So finally I found a person, I told him, 'get ready to get married. ' He looked at her and said, 'yeah she is pretty,' he talked to (?), 'yeah she is wise,' he say, 'I do not know whether I will be faithful or not. ' I said, 'I don't want you to be faithful, I just wanted to marry you. ' She told what kind of man you are. If she can control it, it's fine, if she not it's okay. Today the position is he runs home, he runs home really (?)
所以他给了我一个标准，是啊，一个标准，就是如果一个女人或者他愿意娶一个女人，他带来了他的一个女朋友。如果她比这个更好，他就结婚。好。所以最后我找到一个人，我告诉他，「准备好结婚吧。」他看了看她说，「是啊，她挺漂亮，」他跟（？）谈了谈，「是啊，她挺聪明，」他说，「我不知道我能不能忠诚。」我说，「我不要你忠诚，我只是要你结婚。」她说了你是什么样的男人。如果她能掌控，那很好，如果她不能，也没关系。今天的状况是他往家跑，他真的往家跑（？）
She told what kind of man you are. If she can control it, it's fine, if she not it's okay. Today the position is he runs home, he runs home really (?)
她说了你是什么样的男人。如果她能掌控，那很好，如果她不能，也没关系。今天的状况是他往家跑，他真的往家跑（？）
she is very elegant, she is so elegant that I have seen him, wherever he is, if he find something elegant in a woman, he runs home. One day he was going with me and we saw a very beautiful woman, very gracious, very gracious and I said, 'Oh, oh,' because I knew afterwards I will be alone and he is going to run home and in ten minutes he said, 'oh God I have to go home sir,' I said, 'don't mind you go (?) ' I mean he cannot stand the sight, he want to go home and see she is there.
她非常优雅，她优雅到我看过他，不管他在哪儿，只要他在一个女人身上发现优雅，他就往家跑。有一天他跟我一起走，我们看见一个非常美丽的女人，非常优雅，非常优雅，我说：「哦，哦，」因为我知道之后我就一个人了，他会往家跑，十分钟后他说：「哦神啊，我得回家，先生，」我说：「别介意，你走吧（？）」我是说他受不了那个景象，他想回家去看看她在不在那儿。
Once a woman is elegant and excellently elegant man has no choice and it's a standard criteria, it is a standard criteria there are no two opinions about it.
一旦一个女人优雅，而一个男人优雅得出色，他就没有选择，这是一条标准，这是一条标准，对此没有两种意见。
Student: What is elegance?
学生：什么是优雅？
elegant man has no choice and it's a standard criteria, it is a standard criteria there are no two opinions about it.
优雅的男人没有选择，这是一条标准，这是一条标准，对此没有两种意见。
Student: What is elegance?
学生：什么是优雅？
YB: Siri Simran where is she? Ask her to give those ten (?) when she got married, she was a little girl of mine, I had no reason to marry her, but I was very sick, possibility was that I may die and she was my direct responsibility as a child, I am not her real father, but I am her legal father. When her mother was pregnant, her father ran away and she made me as legal father and I have raised her, there she is and when she got married I told her ten things to live about, and I'll like you to hear that and she keeps in the purse, so she may never forget and she is twenty year old, isn't that?
YB：Siri Simran 她在哪儿？叫她把她结婚时拿到的那十条（？）拿出来，她是我一个小女孩，我没有理由把她嫁出去，但我病得很重，有可能我会死，而她作为孩子是我直接的责任，我不是她的亲生父亲，但我是她的法定父亲。她母亲怀孕时，她父亲跑了，她让我当法定父亲，我把她养大，她就在那儿，她结婚时我告诉她十件要照着活的事，我希望你们听听，她把它放在钱包里，这样她永远不会忘，她二十岁了，是不是？
Student: Twenty-one.
学生：二十一。
YB: Twenty-one now. When you got married how old you were? Eighteen. And this is what I told her.
YB：现在二十一了。你结婚时多大？十八。这就是我告诉她的。
(Student reads those ten points)
（学生读那十条）
Twenty-one.
二十一。
YB: Twenty-one now. When you got married how old you were? Eighteen. And this is what I told her.
YB：现在二十一了。你结婚时多大？十八。这就是我告诉她的。
(Student reads those ten points)
（学生读那十条）
YB: Trust all for nothing, be trusting, but expect nothing. Do you understand? No, no, your excellence, your elegance and your grace, three things man will always challenge, if he challenges it, son of a bitch is out, he is not worth to be a man. Because then he doesn't need a woman, he needs a prostitute, he need somebody to put down, he need somebody to lay his number on and he, then he needs a woman, it is not a woman he is dealing he is dealing with some, some (?). It is not easy to live because then you cannot trust.
YB：什么都不要指望地去信任，要信任，但什么都不期待。你明白吗？不，不，你的卓越、你的优雅和你的高贵，这三样东西男人总会去挑战，如果他去挑战它，这狗娘养的滚出去，他不配做男人。因为那样他就不需要一个女人，他需要一个妓女，他需要一个人来贬低，他需要一个人让他把自己的号码压上去，那样他才需要一个女人，他打交道的不是一个女人，他打交道的是某种，某种（？）。这样活着不容易，因为那样你就无法信任。
Student: (----)
学生：（----）
YB: Call it anything, then you know when a woman has to hassle his life her life, do you know what I mean? Game is already over
YB：随便你怎么叫它，那么你就知道，当一个女人不得不折腾他的生活、她的生活，你明白我的意思吗？游戏已经结束了
Side B
B 面
Let her drag the insecurity. He won't. He will protect her physically, socially, biologically, psychologically, financially and futuristically. It is his inborn nature. If he is in love, he will be blind and he will do the thing. You know doesn't matter who says my relationship with Bibiji (?) what?
让她拖着那份不安全感。他不会。他会在身体上、社会上、生理上、心理上、经济上、未来上保护她。这是他天生的本性。如果他在爱里，他会盲目，他会去做那件事。你知道，不管谁说我和 Bibiji（？）的关系怎样，都无所谓。
his inborn nature. If he is in love, he will be blind and he will do the thing. You know doesn't matter who says my relationship with Bibiji (?) what?
这是他天生的本性。如果他在爱里，他会盲目，他会去做那件事。你知道，不管谁说我和 Bibiji（？）的关系怎样，都无所谓。
But when it comes to action, I am always there and she is PhD in psychology and blah, blah, blah and she gets insecure sometimes very heavily, I said, 'what, what,' she says, 'listen to me,' I say, 'what, what I have to listen, you are saying, you are insecure right, I am saying don't worry, what is there to listen, what's your problem, what is there to listen, why should I listen to a insecurity, then I have to either confirm it or reject it, I am not willing to listen and I object it anyway, if the security will cross me then we'll see, so long it is your insecurity live with it, when it will become my insecurity then I will seriously look at it, and I shall and I will.
但一到行动的时候，我总是在那儿，而她是心理学博士， blah， blah， blah，她有时候会非常严重地感到不安全感，我说，「什么，什么，」她说，「听我说，」我说，「什么，什么我得听，你在说，你不安全，对吧，我在说别担心，有什么好听的，你有什么问题，有什么好听的，我为什么要听一份不安全感，那我就得要么确认它，要么否定它，我不愿意听，而且我本来就反对它，如果不安全感会越过我，那到时候再看，只要它是你的不安全感，你就带着它过，等它变成我的不安全感，那时我会认真看待它，我会的，我一定会的。
' Not only I will carry her when I am alive, I will carry her to my graveyard.
不只我活着的时候会背着她，我会把她背到我的坟墓里。
Student: And to the graveyard.
学生：还有到坟墓里。
YB: That's what it is.
YB：就是这样。
Student: Education, so that they will not be, these insecure man.
学生：教育，这样他们就不会是，这些没有安全感的男人。
carry her to my graveyard.
把她背到我的坟墓里。
Student: And to the graveyard.
学生：还有到坟墓里。
YB: That's what it is.
YB：就是这样。
Student: Education, so that they will not be, these insecure man.
学生：教育，这样他们就不会是，这些没有安全感的男人。
YB: You should get those profile. We have profile, A, B, C, D, E, F profiles, these people need those profile, profile of a marriage, profile of a man, profile of a husband, profile of a officer, people needs lot of profile, we have laid it all up.
YB：你们应该拿到那些档案。我们有档案，A、B、C、D、E、F 各种档案，这些人需要那些档案，婚姻的档案，男人的档案，丈夫的档案，官员的档案，人们需要很多档案，我们全都整理好了。
Student: Okay sir.
学生：好的，先生。
YB: Every mother should read those women in training. Man is discussed so thoroughly in it. They can totally understand what kind of man they needed tomorrow. It is their beauty to build a man of tomorrow, through their children, so some other woman may not suffer.
YB：每个母亲都应该读读那本《女性培训》。里面把男人讨论得那么透彻。她们能完全明白自己明天需要什么样的男人。通过她们的孩子去塑造明天的男人，这是她们的美，这样别的女人也许就不必受苦。
Students: (----)
学生们：（----）
YB: It is same principle those ten volumes can really do a job. It is ten years of honest discussion, give each volume to each women to translate it (?) this German. That's what they need, they need that.
YB：同样的道理，那十卷书真能起作用。那是十年诚实的讨论，给每个女人一卷去把它翻译成（？）这个德语。那就是她们需要的，她们需要那个。
Student: Every kid is getting older. The project can take too long, the children need it now.
学生：每个孩子都在长大。这个项目可能拖得太久，孩子们现在就需要它。
(?) this German. That's what they need, they need that.
（？）这个德语。那就是她们需要的，她们需要那个。
Student: Every kid is getting older. The project can take too long, the children need it now.
学生：每个孩子都在长大。这个项目可能拖得太久，孩子们现在就需要它。
YB: Basically, majority of the people do not know what is what? That's where the problem starts. We want to start everything with emotion and emotion get (?) by emotion you can just do a patchwork it's not standard, especially in Germany, when people have gone through World War II.
YB：基本上，大多数人不知道什么是什么？问题就是从这里开始的。我们想用情绪来启动一切，而情绪会（？）——靠情绪，你只能打补丁，那不合标准，尤其是在德国，当人们经历过第二次世界大战之后。
Student: It is a special situation that during the war the men went away. The women took care of the house, they took care of the businesses, they took care of the government, they took care of everything. They were in control on their (?) things. The man was out in venturing, it was difficult but he had training, he had travel, when they came back together it was very hard, the women were telling it's so hard with the family then to get back together, the women had control then she had to subordinate herself to this man who was nothing, who had lost the war, who is not secure and she had to then try to figure it out how to make the relationship.
学生：这是一个特殊的情况，战争期间男人都走了。女人照顾家，照顾生意，照顾政府，照顾一切。她们掌控着自己的（？）事情。男人在外面闯荡，那很难，但他受过训练，他走过四方，当他们重新回到一起时，非常艰难，女人们说，跟家人在一起已经这么难，然后还要重新回到一起，女人本来掌控着一切，然后她不得不让自己从属于这个男人，而这个男人什么都不是，他输掉了战争，他没有安全感，她还得去想办法，怎么让这段关系成立。
herself to this man who was nothing, who had lost the war, who is not secure and she had to then try to figure it out how to make the relationship.
她自己从属于这个男人，而这个男人什么都不是，他输掉了战争，他没有安全感，她还得去想办法，怎么让这段关系成立。
YB: No women should forget, that in every man, there is still a baby and there is still a very, very, old, old man, it doesn't matter what the age is, and no man is beyond that concept, you forget that it's a tragedy, a woman will go with a passion and then later on will become very insecure or extremely secure, she becomes motherly, she will be dominant and very secure or she will be very, very insecure and very fake both conditions are not good, she has to remain a woman throughout the time. You are a woman in the beginning and you are a woman now, and you always will be woman. Never try to be a girl or to be a mother both are not (?)
YB：女人都不该忘记，每个男人里面，都还有一个婴儿，也还有一个非常、非常老、非常老的男人，不管他多大年纪都一样，没有一个男人能超出这个概念，你忘了这一点，那就是一场悲剧，女人会带着一股激情投入，然后后来会变得非常没有安全感，或者极度有安全感，她变得像母亲一样，她会变得强势而且非常有安全感，或者她会变得非常、非常没有安全感，非常虚假，这两种情况都不好，她必须始终做一个女人。你一开始是女人，你现在是女人，你永远都会是女人。绝不要试着去做一个女孩，或者去做一个母亲，两者都不（？）
You are a woman in the beginning and you are a woman now, and you always will be woman. Never try to be a girl or to be a mother both are not (?)
你一开始是女人，你现在是女人，你永远都会是女人。绝不要试着去做一个女孩，或者去做一个母亲，两者都不（？）
you married as a woman, you became woman first and then mother, you became a girl to become a woman and God made you a woman, your value is in to be a woman and then dominate the man. In a living room she is the most graceful and in kitchen no shelf can be... So you can reach a man through (?), through stomach and through your elegance and elegance comes through the mouth, through the word, what you speak and that's very important.
你是作为女人结婚的，你先成为女人，然后才成为母亲，你先成为女孩，才成为女人，而神把你造成女人，你的价值就在于做一个女人，然后去主导男人。在客厅里，她是最优雅的，在厨房里，没有一个架子能……所以你可以通过（？）到达一个男人，通过胃，通过你的优雅，而优雅是从嘴里出来的，通过话语，通过你说的话，这非常重要。
Once a man knows his woman is very elegant neither he will cross her nor he will double-cross her, cross or double-cross, why (?).
一旦一个男人知道他的女人非常优雅，他既不会越过她，也不会欺骗她，越过或欺骗，为什么（？）。
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a man knows his woman is very elegant neither he will cross her nor he will double-cross her, cross or double-cross, why (?).
一个男人知道他的女人非常优雅，他就既不会越过她，也不会欺骗她，越过或欺骗，为什么（？）。
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YB: Not let her down, neither let her down, nor put her down. Even now corrupt men I have seen they don't do it, even criminals don't do it. They are so proud of a elegant, man is proud of a elegant woman, playing game of a woman is more dangerous to her than to a man. Look you take the knife and take the lemon whether you put the knife right way or left way, lemon is going to cut, not the knife. In the game woman is going to get hurt, not man, rather some men play the game to hurt the woman, because it is their vendetta against the mother and vice-versa
YB：不让她失望，既不让她失望，也不贬低她。即使是现在，我见过的那些败坏的男人也不会这么做，连罪犯都不会这么做。他们为一个优雅的女人如此骄傲，男人为一个优雅的女人骄傲，玩弄女人的游戏，对女人的危险比对男人更大。你看，你拿刀，拿柠檬，不管你把刀正着放还是反着放，被切的是柠檬，不是刀。在这场游戏里，受伤的会是女人，不是男人，倒是一些男人玩这个游戏就是为了伤害女人，因为那是他们对母亲的宿怨，反过来也一样
woman is going to get hurt, not man, rather some men play the game to hurt the woman, because it is their vendetta against the mother and vice-versa
受伤的会是女人，不是男人，倒是一些男人玩这个游戏就是为了伤害女人，因为那是他们对母亲的宿怨，反过来也一样
Everybody wants a secure woman but not a insecure mother in a woman and men who play game and woman arouse him to play a game, a woman digs her own grave. Some men will try to make a baby out of a woman, some men will try to make mother out of woman. Woman should be a woman, doesn't matter what, because man has married a woman not a mother, not a girl, nothing, woman is a woman. He didn't marry a mother so please understand whatever games a man plays woman has to understand that there is no play game for her.
每个人都想要一个有安全感的女人，但不想要女人身上那个没有安全感的母亲，而男人玩游戏、女人又挑动他去玩游戏，女人就是在给自己挖坟。有些男人会试着把女人变成婴儿，有些男人会试着把女人变成母亲。女人就该是女人，不管怎样，因为男人娶的是女人，不是母亲，不是女孩，什么都不是，女人就是女人。他没有娶一个母亲，所以请明白，不管男人玩什么游戏，女人都必须明白，对她来说没有游戏可玩。
woman is a woman. He didn't marry a mother so please understand whatever games a man plays woman has to understand that there is no play game for her.
女人就是女人。他没有娶一个母亲，所以请明白，不管男人玩什么游戏，女人都必须明白，对她来说没有游戏可玩。
They normally play games to change a woman from woman to something else, don't allow it, beginning is wrong forget about the end, end will be wrong anyway, man will say, 'give me an opinion,' if you don't he will be mad, if you give him, he will fix the responsibility on you so what is the idea, man by nature can (?) they know intuitively what to do, but they also know how to play the game. They will always catch you on a weaker moment, these are the tricks they use, they care for you, they love you, but you will find in the care and love there is nothing but commotionalism there is no realism and they will use you to create that commotionalism.
他们通常玩游戏，是为了把女人从女人变成别的东西，不要允许它，开始就是错的，就别想结局了，结局反正都会是错的，男人会说，「给我个意见」，你不给，他会发火，你给了，他又会把责任推到你身上，那该怎么办呢，男人天生就能（？）他们凭直觉知道该做什么，但他们也知道怎么玩游戏。他们总会在你比较脆弱的时刻抓住你，这些就是他们用的把戏，他们关心你，他们爱你，但你会发现在那份关心和爱里，除了情绪化什么都没有，没有半点真实，而他们会利用你去制造那种情绪化。
but you will find in the care and love there is nothing but commotionalism there is no realism and they will use you to create that commotionalism.
但你会发现在那份关心和爱里，除了情绪化什么都没有，没有半点真实，而他们会利用你去制造那种情绪化。
Moment you allow it you will loose your personality and then they do anything they want, don't let them start wrong, normally men tell you they care too much, they love you too much, they do too much, actually, actually they cover their guilt, a man can't do too much, so why to pretend too much, but you are blind, you believe him. Then son of a bitch start doing too much there is something too much wrong and quickly figure it out what is this too much for, what is behind the screen. Once one guy told me, her husband has come from Japan. He brought a beautiful pearl necklace and this and that I said, but ever he buy jewelry to you, she said, 'no.
你一旦允许它，你就会失去你的人格，然后他们想干什么就干什么，别让他们开错头，通常男人会告诉你他们太在乎了，太爱你了，做得太多了，其实，其实他们是在掩盖自己的愧疚，一个男人不可能做得太多，那为什么要假装做得太多，但你是瞎的，你相信他。然后那个狗娘养的开始做得太多，这里面一定有什么太不对劲的地方，赶紧弄清楚这「太多」是为了什么，幕布后面藏着什么。有一次一个人告诉我，她丈夫从日本回来了。他带回来一条漂亮的珍珠项链和这个那个，我说，但他以前给你买过珠宝吗，她说：「没有。
me, her husband has come from Japan. He brought a beautiful pearl necklace and this and that I said, but ever he buy jewelry to you, she said, 'no.
我，她丈夫从日本回来了。他带回来一条漂亮的珍珠项链和这个那个，我说，但他以前给你买过珠宝吗，她说：「没有。
I always go with him and he say buy whatever you want and he pays the check and this is first time he brought all these gifts, I said, oh, oh (?) ' So one day we were sitting together, and I have been to Japan too, I was taken to this place to see geisha girl, 'did your host took you to,' he said, 'yeah it was a formality I had to do. ' I said, 'tell her the detail of it. ' So we got the cat out of the bag in two minutes.
我总是跟他一起去，他说想买什么就买什么，他来付账，这是第一次他带回来所有这些礼物，我说，哦，哦（？）』所以有一天我们坐在一起，我也去过日本，我被带到那个地方去看艺伎，『你的东道主带你去了吗，』他说，『去了，那是我不得不做的一种礼节。』我说，『把细节告诉她。』于是我们两分钟就把猫从袋子里放出来了。
She contains the he. Woman contains the man and female contains the male, that is the way it is. Man needs to be contained, that is a law. If you can't contain him you can't blame them. Men has no boundary they say they have, not true.
她容纳他。女人容纳男人，女性容纳男性，事情就是这样。男人需要被容纳，这是一条法则。如果你容纳不了他，你不能怪他们。男人没有边界，他们说他们有，不是真的。
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to be contained, that is a law. If you can't contain him you can't blame them. Men has no boundary they say they have, not true.
被容纳，这是一条法则。如果你容纳不了他，你不能怪他们。男人没有边界，他们说他们有，不是真的。
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YB: In the modern society, it takes now two people to keep the household going, but man will not let the protection go, you will be surprised to find men do that. Suppose you are stuck at your work, late night, and you leave a message 'I am stuck at work. ' A man will be right there outside to pick you up, doesn't matter how many miles he has to drive again, they don't give up grace normally and they don't tolerate disgrace either. Man will immediately know that his woman is not into him. He will start giving warning, and start fighting, and if he doesn't get the right answer, right or wrong he will walk away doesn't matter what.
YB：在现代社会，现在需要两个人才能维持一个家，但男人不会放下保护的角色，你会惊讶地发现男人就是这样。假设你被困在工作里，深夜了，你留了个消息「我被困在工作里了。」一个男人会立刻出现在外面来接你，不管他得再开多少英里的路，他们通常不会放弃优雅，他们也不容忍丢脸。男人会立刻知道他的女人心不在他身上。他会开始发出警告，开始争吵，如果他得不到正确的答案，不管对错他都会走掉，不管发生什么。
him. He will start giving warning, and start fighting, and if he doesn't get the right answer, right or wrong he will walk away doesn't matter what.
他。他会开始发出警告，开始争吵，如果他得不到正确的答案，不管对错他都会走掉，不管发生什么。
Men are very shallow and they act very fast (?) you talk to men I do not know why, men always know woman do not make sense to a man, that maybe your satisfaction. Men know (?) when it comes to a woman, that man loves, world do not mean anything men only talk where they have to hunt, remember word of a man is the most dangerous thing it is just to invoke you and to mesmerize you, invoke and mesmerize, if you really see the love of a man it is rolling technique they will know you'll do them..., roll, roll, attract you towards them..., he has to carry, why he should roll, what's the idea, he wants you to come on your own strength, something serious.
男人非常肤浅，行动非常快（？）你跟男人说话，我不知道为什么，男人总是知道女人对男人来说没有道理，那也许就是你的满足。男人知道（？）一碰到女人，那个男人爱的，世界就不算什么了，男人只谈他们要去猎取的地方，记住男人的话是最危险的东西，它只是为了召唤你、迷惑你，召唤和迷惑，如果你真的看见一个男人的爱，那是滚动技巧，他们会知道你会对他们做……，滚，滚，把你吸引向他们……，他必须承载，他为什么要滚，什么主意，他要你靠自己的力量来，严重的事。
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has to carry, why he should roll, what's the idea, he wants you to come on your own strength, something serious.
必须承载，他为什么要滚，什么主意，他要你靠自己的力量来，严重的事。
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(Students laugh)
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YB: I know the story. I think we can talk it privately it will be much better, because I know the whole game (?) you must know your identity first and the personality, if you have already established then you know the strength, you are trying to know the situation to be emotional then there is something falsehood somewhere, and it will show up, and you know that. Life has a certain weight and it needs a certain strength to carry the weight and if you do not develop that weight and do not develop that personality there is a imbalance. That's why for a woman to be emotional and for a man to be commotional is walking towards the disaster.
YB：我知道这个故事。我想我们可以私下谈，那样会好得多，因为我知道整个游戏（？）你必须先知道你的身份和人格，如果你已经确立了，那你就知道力量，你试图去了解情况，变得情绪化，那某处就有虚假，它会显现出来，而你知道这一点。生命有一定的重量，它需要一定的力量来承载这个重量，如果你不发展那个重量，不发展那个人格，就有失衡。这就是为什么女人情绪化、男人情绪化，是走向灾难。
develop that personality there is a imbalance. That's why for a woman to be emotional and for a man to be commotional is walking towards the disaster.
发展那个人格，就有失衡。这就是为什么女人情绪化、男人情绪化，是走向灾难。
The very word to say that man is very, very special, it's a deadly wrong concept, what is special he has two penises, four testicles, son of a bitch is a man to begin with and man in the end, why, why you are so blind and idiot. Find a man, not a special man, not special man, it's so ridiculous, it's so blinding statement an idiot will not do it, then find a special man and suffer special consequences, he never bought a special woman, she is not worth a dime. Special woman will create special problem, he will cerate special disaster, who wants special problem and special disaster, special consequences, not possible.
说男人非常、非常特别，这个词本身就是一个致命错误的观念，有什么特别的，他有两个阴茎、四个睾丸，狗娘养的，一开始是男人，最后也是男人，为什么，你为什么这么瞎、这么蠢。找一个男人，不是一个特别的男人，不是特别的男人，这太荒谬了，这么瞎的说法，一个白痴都不会这么做，那就去找一个特别的男人，承受特别的后果，他从来没买过一个特别的女人，她一文不值。特别的女人会制造特别的问题，他会制造特别的灾难，谁想要特别的问题和特别的灾难、特别的后果，不可能。
One of these, one of the person my child I raised her, I educated her and I want her to be a woman, and it was a psychiatric problem she thought, I am very interested in her the very fact I took a special care, situation was so bad and she was so abused it took a lot to make a woman out of her.
其中有一个，有一个孩子是我养大的，我教育她，我想让她成为一个女人，而她以为那是精神问题，我对她非常上心，正因为我特别用心，情况那么糟，她受过那么多虐待，要把她变成一个女人才花了那么多功夫。
(Students laugh)
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in her the very fact I took a special care, situation was so bad and she was so abused it took a lot to make a woman out of her.
在她身上，正因为我特别用心，情况那么糟，她受过那么多虐待，要把她变成一个女人才花了那么多功夫。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
When we were in Moscow, we were staying in Hotel Continental. In the reception it was about ten story high, there was a tower, it was like a globe, around it there were very musical people as statues on the top was the Rooster, when it is clock time one, two, three, four, our time before that the Rooster will open its wings (?) and then its neck go out and he does this what (?) and he will do it twice, twice he will (?) and the clock will strike one, two, three, four, whatever the time is, underneath there were three windows or four windows which will open up and a theme with drama will start circulating it was fantastic, but sound was no different (?)
我们在莫斯科的时候，住在欧陆酒店。接待大厅大概有十层楼那么高，有一座塔，像个地球仪，周围有很多懂音乐的人像雕塑，顶上是一只公鸡，到了报时的时候，一点、两点、三点、四点，到我们那个时间之前，公鸡会张开翅膀（？），然后脖子伸出来，它做这个动作（？），它会做两次，两次它会（？），然后钟敲一点、两点、三点、四点，不管是什么时间，下面有三扇窗或四扇窗会打开，一个带戏剧情节的主题就开始转起来，太精彩了，但声音没什么不同（？）
The idea is be a woman and you will find a man. Woman is a very precious thing. She is the future of the society, she is the base of the society and she is the beginning of the society, minus woman what is there in the world, tell me. But the tragedy with a woman is, 'he is my special man and love' and all that.
关键就是做一个女人，你就会找到一个男人。女人是非常珍贵的东西。她是社会的未来，她是社会的基础，她是社会的开端，减去女人，这世上还剩什么，告诉我。但女人的悲剧在于，「他是我特别的男人，是我的爱」以及诸如此类。
of the society, minus woman what is there in the world, tell me. But the tragedy with a woman is, 'he is my special man and love' and all that.
社会的基础，减去女人，这世上还剩什么，告诉我。但女人的悲剧在于，「他是我特别的男人，是我的爱」以及诸如此类。
Simple things are simple thing, don't make them complicated and complex. Otherwise sequence leads to consequences. Special men create special trouble and special women suffers special program, better to be straight, simple and do it with a smile. Three things you must not do and three things you must do. Be straight simple and do it with a smile, don't be lazy and don't be lousy and don't be late. This is the problem with the woman, they always like to be late, they always like to be lousy and they will love and pretend to be lazy. These are three things a woman does normally just to charm herself and net result is that is where the trouble starts.
简单的事就是简单的事，别把它们弄复杂、弄繁琐。否则序列就会带来后果。特别的男人制造特别的麻烦，特别的女人承受特别的程序，最好还是直截了当、简单，带着微笑去做。有三件事你绝不能做，有三件事你必须做。要直截了当、简单，带着微笑去做，不要懒惰，不要邋遢，不要迟到。这就是女人的问题，她们总喜欢迟到，总喜欢邋遢，还会乐在其中，装作懒散。这三件事是女人通常做的，只是为了让自己显得迷人，而最终结果就是麻烦从这里开始。
Simple fact of life is woman has to carry the future of the manhood therefore God made her sixteen times more intelligent, to be sixteen times more careful, make a choice.
生活中一个简单的事实是，女人必须承载男性未来的延续，所以神让她聪明十六倍，让她小心十六倍，去做选择。
woman has to carry the future of the manhood therefore God made her sixteen times more intelligent, to be sixteen times more careful, make a choice.
女人必须承载男性未来的命运，所以神把她造得聪明十六倍，要她小心十六倍，去做选择。
When you stand before a mirror, there is one advice I want to give you all. When you stand before a mirror don't look into the mirror whether you are very beautiful or sexy. Look into the mirror whether you are elegant and graceful, you can win the world, simple.
当你站在镜子前，我想给你们所有人一个建议。当你站在镜子前，不要照镜子看自己是不是很美、很性感。要照镜子看自己是不是优雅、高贵，你能不能赢得世界，就这么简单。
A woman who is elegant and graceful have two hundred men falling in love with her and she doesn't have to worry.
一个优雅而高贵的女人，会有两百个男人爱上她，而她根本不用操心。
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YB: If a woman doesn't know who is who then God doesn't what is what, that is a biggest lie a woman does it to get herself screwed up and that is a whore in a woman to let her grace fall, let her God's fall, and let her get exploited, that's one of the saddest thing of the man. There is not a one woman who doesn't know where the danger is or where the strength is, she is not born,
YB：如果一个女人不知道谁是谁，那神就不知道什么是什么，那是女人对自己撒的最大的谎，好把自己搞砸，那是女人心里的妓女，让她的优雅堕落，让她的神堕落，让她被人利用，那是男人最可悲的事之一。没有一个女人不知道危险在哪里、力量在哪里，她不是生来就不知道，
"Bij mantar sarb ko gyan. "
「Bij mantar sarb ko gyan。」
of the man. There is not a one woman who doesn't know where the danger is or where the strength is, she is not born,
不是生来就不知道。没有一个女人不知道危险在哪里、力量在哪里，她不是生来就不知道，
"Bij mantar sarb ko gyan. "
「Bij mantar sarb ko gyan。」
Every seed know there is a tree in it, whether it sprouts or not that's a matter of chance, if you tell me a woman doesn't know which man is for her, forget it, that's not true. If a man has, God has to take a birth He is not going to come through air, He is going to come through woman. So how you can say woman doesn’t know? Woman know man as a child, woman know a man as a son, woman know man as a husband, woman know man as father, which aspect of the man woman doesn’t know? How can she say “I don’t know what man which.” Tell me. Hmm, what is that now?
每一颗种子都知道里面有一棵树，它发不发芽那是机缘的事。你要是告诉我，一个女人不知道哪个男人是她的，算了吧，那不是真的。如果神要投生为人，他不会从空气里来，他会从女人那里来。那你怎么能说女人不知道？女人以孩子的方式认识男人，女人以儿子的方式认识男人，女人以丈夫的方式认识男人，女人以父亲的方式认识男人，男人的哪一个面向是女人不知道的？她怎么能说「我不知道哪个男人是哪个」？告诉我。嗯，现在那是什么？
Student: (------)
学生：（------）
YB: Okay.
YB：好。
Student: (------)
学生：（------）
YB: No, no, this will do. That will be too much. This will be fine. Now this is simple, that’s enough, that’s too much.
YB：不，不，这样就够了。那样就太多了。这样就好。现在这很简单，够了，那太多了。
Every woman knows what kind of man she wants. She is normally blinded by her own emotions and insecurity and makes wrong decision. That’s normal. But if you are going to tell me woman doesn’t know which man she wants, (?) not possible. Every woman knows. So much so that she can create a man.
每个女人都知道自己想要什么样的男人。她通常被自己的情绪和不安蒙住眼睛，做出错误的决定。这很正常。但你要是告诉我，女人不知道自己想要哪个男人，（？）不可能。每个女人都知道。甚至到了她能创造出一个男人的地步。
But if you are going to tell me woman doesn’t know which man she wants, (?) not possible. Every woman knows. So much so that she can create a man.
但你要是告诉我，女人不知道自己想要哪个男人，（？）不可能。每个女人都知道。甚至到了她能创造出一个男人的地步。
This is the story. The Adi Shakti created the man, Brahma and then wanted to have a intercourse with him. He said, “You are my mother, you created me. I can’t do it.”
故事是这样的。Aad Shakti 创造了男人，梵（Brahma），然后想和他交合。他说：「你是我的母亲，你创造了我。我不能这么做。」
So she hung him upside down. So she created Vishnu. And then she wanted the same thing. He freaked out. Then she created Shiva and she wanted the same thing. He said, “All right, you are the mother, so to save the grace you get reborn and then you can marry me. That’s perfect.”
于是她把他倒吊起来。于是她创造了毗湿奴。然后她想要同样的东西。他吓坏了。然后她创造了湿婆，她又想要同样的东西。他说：「好吧，你是母亲，所以为了保住优雅，你转世重生，然后你就能嫁给我。这样完美。」
And that’s why, Adi Shakti got in the birth of the king Hima and took the form of female. So, if the, she can create the universe and marry herself, day one, what’s wrong now?
这就是为什么，Aad Shakti 投生为国王喜马，化成了女身。所以，如果她能在第一天就创造宇宙并嫁给自己，那现在又出了什么问题？
Something has changed, same woman, same man.
有些东西变了，同一个女人，同一个男人。
The enemy of the woman is her insecurity. She is always destroyed by her commotional behavior. Otherwise woman is a win-win situation.
女人的敌人是她的不安全感。她总是被自己情绪化的行为毁掉。否则女人是稳赢的局面。
Yeah, yeah, (?).
对，对，（？）。
Am I right? They didn’t say it. If I am wrong, please ask me questions.
我说得对吗？他们没说过这话。如果我说错了，请向我提问。
Student: Yeah, she didn’t understand the (?) situations.
学生：对，她没理解（？）那些情况。
yeah, (?).
对，（？）。
Am I right? They didn’t say it. If I am wrong, please ask me questions.
我说得对吗？他们没说过这话。如果我说错了，请向我提问。
Student: Yeah, she didn’t understand the (?) situations.
学生：对，她没理解（？）那些情况。
YB: The problem is the man has to make a woman emotional and commotional to win. Otherwise, otherwise man can never win a woman. He can only love a woman. This win and lose game is a destructive game. In love nobody wins and nobody loses. Because love is blind, nobody sees. When you start seeing, then it’s a business. Then there is a win or lose. Marriage has a divorce, love has no divorce. (?) there is no need. Only they give your children the legitimacy to carry the heritage, that is where the institution of marriage is.
YB：问题在于，男人必须让女人变得情绪化、变得激动才能赢。否则，否则男人永远赢不了一个女人。他只能爱一个女人。这种赢和输的游戏是毁灭性的游戏。在爱里没有人赢，也没有人输。因为爱是盲目的，没有人看得见。当你开始看得见，那就成了生意。那就有赢有输。婚姻有离婚，爱没有离婚。（？）没有必要。只是他们给你的孩子继承血脉的合法性，婚姻这个制度就在那里。
Student: What can she do against insecurity?
学生：她能拿不安全感怎么办？
YB: Drop the in.
YB：把那个「不」字丢掉。
You are insecure because you want to. What is insecurity about? What is insecurity mean? Nothing. When you were born you didn’t know you are a woman or a man. You have no diaper, no cleaner, now you are, you didn’t have teeth. God provided you with a milk and a nurse. Now you are fully grownup, now you are insecure? What game is that?
你不安全，是因为你想不安全。不安全是关于什么的？不安全是什么意思？什么都不是。你出生的时候，你并不知道自己是女人还是男人。你没有尿布，没有清洁工，现在你是，你那时没有牙齿。神给你提供了奶和一个护士。现在你完全长大了，现在你不安全了？这是什么把戏？
now you are, you didn’t have teeth. God provided you with a milk and a nurse. Now you are fully grownup, now you are insecure? What game is that?
现在你是，你那时没有牙齿。神给你提供了奶和一个护士。现在你完全长大了，现在你不安全了？这是什么把戏？
Student: When she was a child, she experienced a lot of sadness and badness and (?) and now she has to protect herself, (?). It’s hard to drop the old patterns.
学生：她小时候经历了很多悲伤、糟糕的事和（？），现在她必须保护自己，（？）。要丢掉旧模式很难。
YB: Not true. It is the anger in you of the childhood which you are carrying by insecurity. It won’t, it won’t help. Yesterday was yesterday, it’s gone. Aba-aba-aba-ya-ya-ya, what that means, nothing. Yesterday is yesterday, ya-ya-ya doesn’t come today. It can never be today, just remember that. And you carry it in your memory. That becomes your problem.
YB：不对。那是你童年时的愤怒，你因为不安全感一直背着它。它不会，它不会帮到你。昨天就是昨天，它已经过去了。Aba-aba-aba-ya-ya-ya，那是什么意思，什么都不是。昨天就是昨天，ya-ya-ya 不会来到今天。它永远不可能是今天，记住这一点。而你把它背在记忆里。那就成了你的问题。
Student: Her heart doesn’t understand.
学生：她的心不明白。
YB: Heart understands, head understands. What was yesterday, Monday?
YB：心明白，头脑明白。昨天是什么，星期一？
Student: Yes, Monday.
学生：是的，星期一。
YB: And what is today?
YB：那今天是什么？
Student: Tuesday.
学生：星期二。
YB: So, can you call it Monday? What was on Monday, went away with Monday, why to carry it on Tuesday? When you were child, suffered as a child, for the sake of that don’t suffer now when you are adult. Simple.
YB：那么，你能把它叫星期一吗？星期一发生的事，跟着星期一一起走了，为什么要在星期二背着它？你小时候，作为孩子受了苦，不要为了那件事，在你已经成年的时候还受苦。就这么简单。
Student: They don’t see it simple.
学生：他们看不出这有多简单。
YB: Huh?
YB：嗯？
Student: They do not see it simple.
学生：他们看不出这有多简单。
for the sake of that don’t suffer now when you are adult. Simple.
不要为了那件事，在你已经成年的时候还受苦。就这么简单。
Student: They don’t see it simple.
学生：他们看不出这有多简单。
YB: Huh?
YB：嗯？
Student: They do not see it simple.
学生：他们看不出这有多简单。
YB: Well, if it’s difficult, the life will become difficult. What did I say? If it’s difficult, life will become difficult. I have ruined myself four times. I was born as a prince, I was seventeen year old when I was pauper, and then after I was thirty nine I was pauper again, I have no vengeance. I am sixty one year old, not a one person has spared me to not betray me or hurt me. I have loved people more than I can afford. (?) They bite me left and right, they hurt me, they do whatever they can. If those son of bitches don’t leave their bad habit, why should I leave my good habit? I was born as a prince, I’ll die as a prince. So, simple as that.
YB：好吧，如果它难，生活就会变难。我说了什么？如果它难，生活就会变难。我毁过自己四次。我出生时是个王子，十七岁时我一贫如洗，后来三十九岁以后我又一贫如洗，我没有怨恨。我六十一岁了，没有一个人放过我，不来背叛我、伤害我。我爱人们，爱得超过我所能承受的。（？）他们左右咬我，他们伤害我，他们能做什么就做什么。如果那些狗娘养的不改掉他们的坏习惯，我为什么要改掉我的好习惯？我出生时是个王子，我也会以王子的身份死去。所以，就这么简单。
Ha-cha-cha-cha, how can you make Monday as Tuesday? Even you try you can’t. So why then suffer?
Ha-cha-cha-cha，你怎么能把星期一变成星期二？就算你试，你也做不到。那为什么还要受苦？
a prince, I’ll die as a prince. So, simple as that.
一个王子，我也会以王子的身份死去。所以，就这么简单。
Ha-cha-cha-cha, how can you make Monday as Tuesday? Even you try you can’t. So why then suffer?
Ha-cha-cha-cha，你怎么能把星期一变成星期二？就算你试，你也做不到。那为什么还要受苦？
You think I have not been betrayed? You think I have not been stabbed in the back, you think I have not been lied? You think I have not been hurt? It doesn’t matter. It does not matter. I have to do what I have to do. And the world has to do what the world has to do. You understand? Carrying on a bad dream is not a good idea.
你以为我没有被背叛过？你以为我没有被背后捅过刀，你以为我没有被骗过？你以为我没有被伤害过？那不重要。那不重要。我必须做我必须做的事。而世界必须做世界必须做的事。你明白吗？背着一个坏梦不是个好主意。
Student: She is (?) but it’s very hard to drop the dream and that’s (?).
学生：她是（？），但要放下这个梦非常难，而且那（？）。
YB: Wake up, there will be no dream. (?) simple way to drop the dream, wake up. Every morning I wake up. There is no yesterday. You have a spiritual teacher named Yogi Bhajan, right? And he said, “Those who live in past have no future.” So, you have heard that? Good.
YB：醒来吧，就不会有梦了。（？）放下梦的简单方法，就是醒来。每天早上我醒来。没有昨天。你有一位灵性老师叫 Yogi Bhajan，对吧？他说过：“活在过去的人没有未来。”所以，你听过这句话？好。
You can’t tie your legs and you can walk. You cannot live in the past and have a future. So don’t play this sympathy, apathy game. It doesn’t work. It’s the most self stupid thing (?). Understood? No, it’s not understood but it’s understood. (?) I, I said it already. You understood, not understood?
你绑住双腿就没法走路。你活在过去就不可能有未来。所以别玩这种同情、冷漠的游戏。它没用。这是最自我愚蠢的事（？）。明白了吗？不，不是明白了，但也是明白了。（？）我，我已经说过了。你明白了，还是没明白？
Student: When you understand then you have to take responsibility.
学生：当你明白了，你就得承担责任。
but it’s understood. (?) I, I said it already. You understood, not understood?
但它是明白了。（？）我，我已经说过了。你明白了，还是没明白？
Student: When you understand then you have to take responsibility.
学生：当你明白了，你就得承担责任。
YB: Then you have no, no, you have to stand under. Understanding means commitment of the truth, understand doesn’t mean I know, doesn’t mean a thing.
YB：那你就没有，没有，你得站到下面去。明白意味着对真理的承诺，明白不是指我知道，什么都不是。
Student: She wants to know (?).
学生：她想知道（？）。
YB: Either you can serve your neurosis or you can make your future design.
YB：你要么去伺候你的神经症，要么去设计你的未来。
If we live with our sorrows, we have no chance for happiness. You think people don’t hurt me? I have trusted those students, they have robbed me just under, they’ve done things which are totally stupid, they have done things which are so disgraceful. Well, you got to stand, (?) to stand, there is nothing you can worry about.
如果我们跟自己的悲伤住在一起，我们就没有机会得到快乐。你以为人们不伤害我吗？我信任过那些学生，他们就在我眼皮底下抢我，他们干过完全愚蠢的事，他们干过极其可耻的事。嗯，你得站住，（？）站住，没有什么可担心的。
Students are like children, they don’t care where, what cost of the rug is. If they want to urinate, they urinate right in the living room, they don’t care.
学生就像孩子，他们不在乎地毯在哪儿、值多少钱。他们想尿，就直接在客厅里尿，他们不在乎。
are like children, they don’t care where, what cost of the rug is. If they want to urinate, they urinate right in the living room, they don’t care.
就像孩子，他们不在乎地毯在哪儿、值多少钱。他们想尿，就直接在客厅里尿，他们不在乎。
Yeah, it’s true what I am saying to you, if you look at my life I am hurt every day. For a student it’s very easy, if I say ‘I love you.’ ‘Oh, you don’t love me, you don’t want me, ya-ya-ya,’ you hear morning till night. Or, they can do anything they want to do. One day I am the most loved one, next day I am the most worst one. It’s every day affair. But you keep going. That is called realization. If you have realized you are you are, then you keep on going (?) the way you are going. Yeah? No.
是的，我跟你说的是真的，你看我这一生，我每天都受伤。对学生来说很容易，如果我说“我爱你。”“哦，你不爱我，你不要我，呀呀呀，”你从早听到晚。或者，他们想干什么就干什么。今天我是最被爱的那个，明天我是最糟糕的那个。这是每天都有的事。但你继续走。这就叫领悟。如果你领悟了你是你，那你就继续（？）按你走的方式走。是吧？不。
Student: She wants to know what she is.
学生：她想知道她是什么。
YB: I think as far as I know she is a woman. And she can be graceful woman or she can be miserable woman. At the moment she is choosing to be miserable woman. She is giving importance to her misfortune than counting her blessings.
YB：据我所知，我认为她是个女人。她可以是个优雅的女人，也可以是个悲惨的女人。此刻她选择做个悲惨的女人。她把不幸看得比数算自己的福气更重要。
Student: (?) share your strength, don’t share your weaknesses.
学生：（？）分享你的力量，不要分享你的弱点。
YB: (?) weakness attracts lot of sympathy. Strength doesn’t do that. When you show your strength you have to carry others. Yeah, if you, (?). Oh, you live every day, you know what is going on.
YB：（？）弱点会引来很多同情。力量不会。当你展现你的力量时，你就得承载别人。是的，如果你，（？）。哦，你每天都在生活，你知道发生了什么。
Strength doesn’t do that. When you show your strength you have to carry others. Yeah, if you, (?). Oh, you live every day, you know what is going on.
力量不会。当你展现你的力量时，你就得承载别人。是的，如果你，（？）。哦，你每天都在生活，你知道发生了什么。
Lot of people come and tell me, ‘I love you, I love you, I love you,’ I say, ‘Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes, yes, you are the only lover I got, nothing else.’
很多人跑来跟我说，「我爱你，我爱你，我爱你」，我说，「是啊，是啊，是啊，是啊。对，对，你是我唯一的爱人，没别的了。」
But I have to keep on going (?). If love cannot stop me, neither the hatred, so I have to keep going.
但我得继续走下去（？）。如果爱不能让我停下，恨也不能，所以我得继续走。
Out of the hundred rotten eggs one will hatch. That is even the worth try. One moment of happiness is better than a million year of misery. One graceful experience is better than six hundred persecutions.
一百个烂鸡蛋里会孵出一个。这甚至值得一试。一刻的快乐胜过一百万年的痛苦。一次优雅的体验胜过六百次迫害。
even the worth try. One moment of happiness is better than a million year of misery. One graceful experience is better than six hundred persecutions.
甚至值得一试。一刻的快乐胜过一百万年的痛苦。一次优雅的体验胜过六百次迫害。
Jesus Christ was considered bastard. He was put on a cross, a thief was given forgiveness, not him. With all that tragedy, today he is the son of God. Because there is forgiveness (?) forever. he took no vengeance against his enemies. It doesn’t matter what the time and environments are. It does matter who you are. With all the misery, your eyes still can see, your nose still can breathe, your mouth still can speak and eat, your ears can hear and your body is alive. For that price you should be great. Happening and unhappening is the process of life. Don’t carry yesterday’s misery to today and project them tomorrow. It’s a very dirty game, don’t play it. It’s not worth.
耶稣基督被当作私生子。他被钉上十字架，一个小偷得到了宽恕，而不是他。带着所有这些悲剧，今天他是神之子。因为那里有宽恕（？）永远。他没有对他的敌人报复。时间和环境如何并不重要。你是谁才重要。带着所有这些痛苦，你的眼睛仍然能看，你的鼻子仍然能呼吸，你的嘴仍然能说话和吃东西，你的耳朵能听，你的身体还活着。就凭这个代价，你就应该伟大。发生和不发生是生命的过程。不要把昨天的痛苦带到今天，再投射到明天。这是个很脏的游戏，别玩它。不值得。
In your life you will be judged by your worthiness. Not by your commotions. That is the judgment. Commotionalism is a self-destruction and the base of that is not love but fear. You know, one is born for love, not for fear.
在你的生命中，你会以你的价值被评判。不是以你的骚动。那就是评判。骚动是自我毁灭，它的基础不是爱，而是恐惧。你知道，人是为爱而生的，不是为恐惧。
Student: Sir, (?) few questions that they have about families or the children.
学生：先生，（？）他们有几个关于家庭或孩子的问题。
YB: Yeah, ask.
YB：好，问吧。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: It’s very normal.
YB：这很正常。
not for fear.
不是为恐惧。
Student: Sir, (?) few questions that they have about families or the children.
学生：先生，（？）他们有几个关于家庭或孩子的问题。
YB: Yeah, ask.
YB：好，问吧。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: It’s very normal.
YB：这很正常。
Student: Yeah, I think so (?) but the problem is…
学生：是的，我想是这样（？）但问题是……
YB: Problem is that he is not exercising enough.
YB：问题是他锻炼得不够。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: No, no, but in the beginning he didn’t exercise enough. Now he is doing. Now I agree he is doing. But the cause of bed wet is, there are certain children who are supposed to be exercising very much. And they don’t. Now he has to compensate. Best exercise for him is swimming for hour or two, every day. It will stop. Otherwise change his sheet every day.
YB：不，不，但一开始他运动得不够。现在他在做了。现在我同意他在做了。但尿床的原因是，有些孩子本来就应该大量运动。而他们没有。现在他得补回来。对他来说最好的运动是每天游一两个小时的泳。它就会停。不然就每天给他换床单。
Student: (-----)
学生：（-----）
YB: I tell you, you go to any doctor, do anything, it won’t work. Two hours of wet, wet swimming, he will stop wetting his bed. That’s, that’s very practical, we are trying to many people, it works.
YB：我告诉你，你去找任何医生，做什么都行，都没用。每天游两个小时，湿淋淋地游，他就不会再尿床了。这，这非常实际，我们在很多人身上试过，它管用。
Second question.
第二个问题。
Student: (-----) she wants to know something, if there is, something about single mothers, she is a single mother, and her child does not experience man and she wants to know (?).
学生：（-----）她想知道一些事，是不是有，关于单身母亲的一些东西，她是个单身母亲，她的孩子没有体验过男人，她想知道（？）。
know something, if there is, something about single mothers, she is a single mother, and her child does not experience man and she wants to know (?).
想知道一些事，是不是有，关于单身母亲的一些东西，她是个单身母亲，她的孩子没有体验过男人，她想知道（？）。
YB: Jesus was a bastard. That’s a fact. One day he went to (?) this is a real story, I am not making it up. One day he went to school and the children beat him up and called him bastard, bastard and grabbed him all the way to the house. He asked the mother, “Who is my father?”
YB：耶稣是个私生子。这是事实。有一天他去了（？）这是真事，不是我编的。有一天他去上学，孩子们打了他，叫他私生子、私生子，一路把他拽到家。他问母亲：“我父亲是谁？”
She said, “The angel Gabriel came and told me that you are born in immaculate conception and God is your father, then He shall sit on the right side of it.”
她说：“天使加百列来告诉我，你是在无玷成胎中出生的，神是你的父亲，那么祂将坐在祂的右边。”
She gave him the image, when later on she came and asked him to give up that image, Jesus said, “Madam, you are not my mother.”
她给了他这个形象，后来当她来叫他放下那个形象时，耶稣说：“女士，你不是我的母亲。”
right side of it.”
祂的右边。”
She gave him the image, when later on she came and asked him to give up that image, Jesus said, “Madam, you are not my mother.”
她给了他这个形象，后来当她来叫他放下那个形象时，耶稣说：“女士，你不是我的母亲。”
Same story. The Farid mother wanted him to be religious boy, so she told him to say prayer, so each time when read the prayer she will put some candy under the, under the carpet. So when he will roll the prayer carpet he get the candy. One day unfortunately, she forgot that. So, he came and he meditated, he felt so sweet and so wonderful. He rolled the carpet and forgot about candy. Mother remembered it, she came running, she said, “God did not give you candy today but He gave it to me.”
同样的故事。Farid 的母亲想让他成为虔诚的男孩，所以她叫他念祈祷，每次他念祈祷时，她就会在，在地毯下面放一些糖果。这样当他卷起祈祷地毯时，他就会拿到糖果。有一天不幸的是，她忘了。于是，他来了，他冥想，他感觉那么甜美、那么美妙。他卷起地毯，忘了糖果的事。母亲想起来了，她跑过来，她说：“神今天没有给你糖果，但祂给了我。”
And he laughed. He said, “Mother, thank you very much, I got the real candy.”
他笑了。他说：“母亲，非常感谢你，我得到了真正的糖果。”
What mother seeds the higher altitude and higher caliber in a child, that lives forever. Among Sikhs, when we are baptized, we forget about worldly mother and father. The tenth master Guru Gobind Singh become our father and Mata Sahib Deva become our mother. This is the vow we take when we take the baptism. Why to have the parents which have to die, why not to have the parents which never die?
什么样的母亲会在孩子心里种下更高的境界和更高的品格，那会永远活着。在锡克教徒中，当我们受洗时，我们就忘掉世俗的母亲和父亲。第十位古茹 Guru Gobind Singh 成为我们的父亲，Mata Sahib Deva 成为我们的母亲。这就是我们受洗时所发的誓愿。为什么要拥有那些终将死去的父母，为什么不去拥有那些永远不会死的父母？
our mother. This is the vow we take when we take the baptism. Why to have the parents which have to die, why not to have the parents which never die?
我们的母亲。这就是我们受洗时所发的誓愿。为什么要拥有那些终将死去的父母，为什么不去拥有那些永远不会死的父母？
Idea is that we create the deathlessness right there. So, don’t, don’t be afraid. Give him a profile of a man and let the child believe it. And nobody will take it away.
关键在于，我们就在那里创造出不死。所以，不要，不要害怕。给他一个男人的轮廓，让孩子去相信它。没有人能把它拿走。
Student: Give him the profile of the man, give him the characteristics (?).
学生：给他那个男人的轮廓，给他那些特征（？）。
Student: She is asking, (?) could the conception (?) the theory that on the day, in the moon cycle when the woman is (?) always when the (?) then that’s also the day when she can conceive and she is wondering if that’s true.
学生：她在问，（？）那个说法（？）是不是真的——在月亮周期里，女人（？）的那一天，总是（？）的时候，那也是她能受孕的日子，她想知道这是不是真的。
YB: You want to know the truth or should I tell you a theory?
YB：你想知道真相，还是要我给你讲个理论？
Student: The truth.
学生：真相。
YB: Truth is, some woman has conceived without even a intercourse.
YB：真相是，有些女人连性交都没有就受孕了。
(Students laugh)
（学生们笑）
Woman conceives when she wants to conceive. Rest is all is a game. I know of a woman, she was in third day of menstruation and she conceived.
女人在她想受孕的时候就受孕。其余的都只是游戏。我认识一个女人，她在月经的第三天，就受孕了。
Student: (?) not conceive (?).
学生：（？）不受孕（？）。
YB: Now problem is uptightness, nothing (?).
YB：现在的问题是紧绷，别的没什么（？）。
I also know a woman who was standing outside in the street and she said, “I cannot marry this man because I can never conceive, medically it is true.”
我也认识一个女人，她站在外面的街上，她说：“我不能嫁给这个男人，因为我永远无法受孕，医学上这是真的。”
I also know a woman who was standing outside in the street and she said, “I cannot marry this man because I can never conceive, medically it is true.”
我也认识一个女人，她站在外面的街上，她说：“我不能嫁给这个男人，因为我永远无法受孕，医学上这是真的。”
And I said to her, I said, “Just marry, in nine months and six days you will bear a son.”
我对她说，我说：“你就嫁吧，九个月零六天之后你会生一个儿子。”
She married three weeks later but from that day nine months sixth day she bore a son. And I assure you, on the street nobody had a intercourse with her. And she knows it and that was the only child she couldn’t conceive later, she tried million times.
她三周后结了婚，但从那一天起，九个月零六天，她生了一个儿子。我向你保证，在街上没有人跟她性交过。她自己也知道，而那是她唯一的孩子，后来她再也没能受孕，她试了无数次。
Student: (?) how can I help her?
学生：（？）我怎么能帮她？
YB: Well, tell her what a woman is. Spend some time. Read out the stories. Show her medically what a woman is.
YB：嗯，告诉她女人是什么。花点时间。把那些故事读出来。从医学上让她看到女人是什么。
I was seven year old when I was sent to a woman to learn how to, what a woman is and what a man is, I never knew that day what is hanging between my legs, to be very honest. I was told, I was told, diagram was drawn, I was told, I mean to say, that’s how training is.
我七岁的时候，被送到一个女人那里去学习，什么是女人，什么是男人，说实话，那天我根本不知道我两腿之间挂着的是什么。有人告诉我，有人告诉我，画了图，有人告诉我，我的意思是说，训练就是这样进行的。
Student: (?).
学生：（？）。
between my legs, to be very honest. I was told, I was told, diagram was drawn, I was told, I mean to say, that’s how training is.
在我两腿之间，说实话。有人告诉我，有人告诉我，画了图，有人告诉我，我的意思是说，训练就是这样。
Student: (?).
学生：（？）。
YB: There is no need of shyness, you got to tell what you have to tell. There is nothing wrong in it. It’s better to tell a child by you, rather than they learn somewhere else. By telling them all about what a woman is, you can also tell them what a grace of a woman is. Correct?
YB：没必要害羞，你得把该说的说出来。这没什么不对。由你来告诉孩子，比他们从别处学到要好。把女人是什么都告诉他们，你也能告诉他们女人的优雅是什么。对吧？
Student: How can she help her daughter to deal with negativity?
学生：她怎么帮女儿应对负面情绪？
YB: Tell her what is positivity. These are very simple things. Life has a very simple phenomena. There is no complication. We just create it. If child is negative, tell them what negativity is and tell them what positive is and they will experience, then they will trust you, when they go negative again, and you tell them ‘you are negative,’ and voluntarily tell ‘you are positive,’ fine.
YB：告诉她什么是正向。这些都是很简单的事。生命是很简单的现象。没有复杂。是我们自己把它搞复杂了。如果孩子是负面的，就告诉他们什么是负面，告诉他们什么是正向，他们会去体验，然后就会信任你，等他们又变负面时，你告诉他们「你是负面的」，再主动告诉他们「你是正向的」，就行了。
There is a child of mine, her mother and father were miserable. This two year old is about eighty year old. She can lay drama, then make both miserable. One day the mother called me, she said, “I am going to commit suicide, I do not know what you gave me the child for, I can’t handle.”
我有个孩子，她妈妈和爸爸都很痛苦。这个两岁的孩子差不多有八十岁。她会演戏，然后把两个人都弄得很痛苦。有一天妈妈打电话给我，她说：「我要自杀了，我不知道你给我这个孩子是为什么，我应付不了。」
both miserable. One day the mother called me, she said, “I am going to commit suicide, I do not know what you gave me the child for, I can’t handle.”
两个人都很痛苦。有一天妈妈打电话给我，她说：「我要自杀了，我不知道你给我这个孩子是为什么，我应付不了。」
I said, “It is very easy, take a bucket of water and throw at her face with full force but don’t utter one word, just say I, I told you, (?).”
我说：「很简单，拿一桶水，用全力泼到她脸上，但一个字都别说，只说，我，我告诉过你，（？）。」
And she did it, not a one day of problem.
她照做了，一天的问题都没有。
Student: How can she deal with outside negativity (?) people.
学生：她怎么应对外面的负面（？）人。
YB: What (?).
YB：什么（？）。
Student: (?) how to protect the child from situation, for example, what a man will expose himself or sexual abuse from other men, how to educate children to withstand that influence?
学生：（？）怎么保护孩子免受某种情况，比如，一个男人会暴露自己，或者来自其他男人的性侵，怎么教育孩子去抵挡那种影响？
YB: You stand with the children and expose them and these people are insane and this is what they are doing, one day they will grow up and she will like her man to be naked all the time, that’s a different story but what we are doing is, not we are showing the penis and all that, but they are just insulting her, her childhood, her innocence and their intentions of dirty and ugly and this is not what life is really about, if you explain to child in that very (?).
YB：你站在孩子这边，揭穿他们，这些人疯了，他们干的就是这种事，有一天他们会长大，她会希望她的男人一直光着身子，那是另一回事，但我们做的不是，不是去展示阴茎什么的，而是他们就是在侮辱她，她的童年，她的纯真，他们的意图又脏又丑，而生命真正不是这样的，如果你就在那个（？）跟孩子解释。
Student: Before it happens.
学生：在它发生之前。
YB: Before (?) situation they understand.
YB：在（？）情况之前，他们能明白。
Student: (?)
学生：（？）
life is really about, if you explain to child in that very (?).
生命真正不是这样的，如果你就在那个（？）跟孩子解释。
Student: Before it happens.
学生：在它发生之前。
YB: Before (?) situation they understand.
YB：在（？）情况之前，他们能明白。
Student: (?)
学生：（？）
YB: Teaching in life is not what is plus and minus, teaching is what is grace and disgrace (?) I know of a mother, she is a prostitute by profession and she has three daughters, she tell them very openly that she is a prostitute and she tell them how she became prostitute and she also tell them how they were conceived and she tells them how miserable dishonorable and unfortunate it is. And she teach them how to be honorable, graceful and all that. And the three live with a governess. She visits them, she explains to them, she telephones them and she is raising them so beautifully, they are better than anybody.
YB：生活中的教导不是什么是加什么是减，教导是什么是优雅、什么是耻辱（？）我知道一位母亲，她的职业是妓女，她有三个女儿，她很坦率地告诉她们自己是妓女，她告诉她们自己是怎么变成妓女的，她也告诉她们她们是怎么被怀上的，她告诉她们那是多么悲惨、多么不光彩、多么不幸。她教她们如何变得可敬、优雅，以及所有那些。三个女儿和一位女家庭教师住在一起。她去看她们，她向她们解释，她给她们打电话，她把她们养育得那么美好，她们比任何人都好。
And she also tells them why she is keeping the distance, for their future and for their happiness. She is very truthful, they believe her.
她也告诉她们为什么她要保持距离，为了她们的未来，为了她们的幸福。她非常诚实，她们相信她。
anybody.
任何人。
And she also tells them why she is keeping the distance, for their future and for their happiness. She is very truthful, they believe her.
她也告诉她们为什么她要保持距离，为了她们的未来，为了她们的幸福。她非常诚实，她们相信她。
Children understand simple honest truth. My children came from India, they brought two kilos of salt in their bag because in India I was an officer, they thought now I have become a yogi, (?) there will be no salt available, no food available. Yeah, it was very great tragedy and then I, one day I was sitting with my wife in the living room, I said, “Do something to send these children out and I and you will abuse each other and fight and just start really very miserable.”
孩子懂得简单诚实的真相。我的孩子从印度来，他们包里带了两公斤盐，因为在印度我是个官员，他们以为我现在成了瑜伽士，（？）不会有盐了，不会有食物了。是啊，那是很大的悲剧，然后我，有一天我和我妻子坐在客厅里，我说：“想个办法把这些孩子打发出去，然后我和你互相辱骂、打架，就真的开始弄得非常悲惨。”
She said, “Why?”
她说：“为什么？”
I said, “There is no time to explain, let us do it. I’ll explain to you later.”
我说：“没时间解释，咱们就这么做。我以后再跟你解释。”
She said, “Okay,” so she told them, “Just go and bring something.”
她说：“好吧，”于是她告诉他们：“你们出去拿点东西回来。”
said, “There is no time to explain, let us do it. I’ll explain to you later.”
说：“没时间解释，咱们就这么做。我以后再跟你解释。”
She said, “Okay,” so she told them, “Just go and bring something.”
她说：“好吧，”于是她告诉他们：“你们出去拿点东西回来。”
By the time they came back, I was just beating her up and she was yelling and screaming and (?). We really created a drama you can’t believe it and the children start crying and ‘don’t do it and don’t do it and don’t do it,’ and then we both laughed we said, “We are not doing anything, you guys brought the salt, not we. We are the same parents, why you treat us so different and why you are giving us so distance?” That’s it.
等他们回来的时候，我正在打她，她在喊叫、尖叫，（？）。我们真的演了一出你无法相信的戏，孩子们开始哭，‘别这样，别这样，别这样，’然后我们两个都笑了，我们说：“我们什么都没做，是你们把盐带回来的，不是我们。我们还是同样的父母，为什么你们对我们这么不一样，为什么你们跟我们这么疏远？”就是这样。
Because they thought we live on the high sky and they can’t reach us. And we went all the way (?) because they had never seen us fighting. So that day they understood their bringing salt is as equally as we were fighting.
因为他们以为我们住在高高的天上，他们够不着我们。而我们一路（？），因为他们从没见过我们打架。所以那一天他们明白了，他们带盐回来和我们打架是一样的事。
Student: (?).
学生：（？）。
YB: Sometime you have to practically teach a child, you are hundred percent with that child and not the child cannot trust you.
YB：有时候你必须实实在在地教一个孩子，你对那个孩子百分之百投入，而孩子不会不信任你。
Student: (-------) her child is twenty one months old and sometimes she has to work and she wants to know how long can the child be with another person or another lady (?) father, (?).
学生：（-------）她的孩子二十一个月大，有时候她得工作，她想知道孩子能跟另一个人或另一位女士（？）父亲（？）待多久。
one months old and sometimes she has to work and she wants to know how long can the child be with another person or another lady (?) father, (?).
一个月大，有时候她得工作，她想知道孩子能跟另一个人或另一位女士（？）父亲（？）待多久。
YB: No, it depends upon how much affectionate she leaves the environment. Person with the environments.
YB：不，这取决于她离开时那个环境里有多少爱意。跟环境在一起的人。
Student: (?).
学生：（？）。
YB: Cozy environments.
YB：舒适的环境。
I once left my child with a dog. It was much better than any man. I do it.
我曾经把我的孩子留给一条狗。它比任何男人都好得多。我就这么做。
Student: What about when the mother leaves the child every day at a day care center (?).
学生：那如果母亲每天都把孩子放在日托中心呢（？）。
YB: It depends on what kind of day care center it is. I am just saying it is not, nobody can substitute the mother but nobody should leave the child to be prostituted by the environments. You have to be very careful what kind of day center you have. It’s very important. And when you take the child from day care center ask the whole report of the day. If there is any fear, and any mishap, clean it out. Require extra care.
YB：这取决于那是什么样的日托中心。我只是说，这不是，没有人能替代母亲，但也不该让孩子被环境卖淫。你必须非常小心你选的是什么样的日托中心。这非常重要。而且当你从日托中心接孩子时，要问一整天的全部报告。如果有任何恐惧、任何意外，就清理掉。需要格外用心。
Student: If the child is crying (?) doesn’t want to go there.
学生：如果孩子哭（？）不想去那里。
of the day. If there is any fear, and any mishap, clean it out. Require extra care.
一整天的。如果有任何恐惧、任何意外，就清理掉。需要格外用心。
Student: If the child is crying (?) doesn’t want to go there.
学生：如果孩子哭（？）不想去那里。
YB: There is something wrong. Correct that. Children know through their body language what they are saying to you. When they are hungry they cry, when they wet their bathroom they make noise. So they just, with body language they let you know there is something wrong. Children are more sensitive than adults, so they should be treated very sensibly and sensitively.
YB：那就是有什么不对。把它纠正过来。孩子通过他们的身体语言让你知道他们在说什么。他们饿了就哭，尿湿了裤子就发出声音。所以他们就是，用身体语言让你知道有什么不对。孩子比成年人更敏感，所以应该非常明智、非常敏感地对待他们。
Thank you very much. No, no, keep sitting, keep sitting, I’ll get up. You have to keep sitting and finish this cookies. And see you later during the…
非常感谢。不，不，继续坐着，继续坐着，我自己起来。你得继续坐着，把这些饼干吃完。回头在……的时候再见。